is it legal?

ALIBOBSY

relic wrote: »

Again, a father who works part time isn't taking care of anything financially.

The OP says they share residency 50-50, are you saying that couples who are separated should both work full time or are you being deliberately sexist and suggesting "men work-women stay home ugg".

From the sounds of it he has worked part time whilst studying to try to ensure long term he (hopefully) has a better long term career and now he has qualified he is looking for work-for the recordmy OH spent 6 months looking for work last year,despite being highly skilled experienced and qualified in his area so new graduates must have their work cut out to find anything.

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Nicky321

relic wrote: »

I'm male, and soon to be father of a child.

I'm not supporting anyone, i'm just pointing out that you seem to think that a man who works part time can possibly support himself, never mind a family. It's incredibly naive, and quite idiotic to believe this is true.

Well lets hope you never find yourself in this situation.

Its not naive, nor idiotic, he supports his child like any father should do. As for a man who works part time not possibly being able to support himself let alone a family..... well I guess so far its proved he can

jetta_wales

Relic for to be insisting that he ipcan not be able to support his child means you'd have to be implying she is neglected in some way as he has her for 50% of the time and if she is clothed, fed, loved, housed etc etc in the time she is with him then this is not the case and he is supporting his child.

dark_lady

Why is she becoming hostile over actually spending the money she gets for the child actually ON the child. After all this is what they are intended for no? Bet she wont be backward in coming forward when the OPs son secures a good job thanks to his time at uni. And then thanks to the new rules she will get to keep ALL her benefits regardless what amount of maintenance is paid.
So it really shouldnt be too much to ask for her to spend the child benefits on the child should it?!

Nicky321

dark_lady wrote: »

Why is she becoming hostile over actually spending the money she gets for the child actually ON the child.

We have no idea. All she would say, is you want it for yourself :S. He is only asking for her to help out for the time being while he is on JSA. When he does get a job, no doubt she will be going overboard to get some of his hard earned cash. I can only wonder if she has ever thought this over and wonder how she would go on, or expect if things where the other way around. eg, dad had a job, he got CB and CTC and had his daughter 50% and she was on JSA, had her daughter 50% and received no Child related benefits. Surely she would then be asking the childs father to help out.