please help need advice

penol14

i need the money to pay off the debt i have built up living where i am now, he says he needs me out asap so he can claim benefit again and then i suppose he will get legal aid.

penol14

no he doesn't go out

paddy's_mum

STOP THE SALE!!!!

Keep your previous house as your bolt-hole and safety net while you seek legal advice. You cannot afford not to .. seriously!

pinkshoes

Do you have any family or a friend you could move in with? By moving out it would prove you were separated, and there is no reason to hand a penny over to him as the sale would be after the separation.

If he's violent, report it to the police.

paddy's_mum

Do you realise that debt is easier to deal with than homelessness? You have the welfare of a child to take into consideration and it seems to me that he/she should be your priority. Unless you have already exchanged contracts on the other house, you are at liberty to abort the sale, hard on the intending buyers though that may be. However, it looks at the moment as though your needs must out-rank any upset or disappointment to them.

I wonder if it has occurred to your husband yet that if he does actually manage to achieve some part of the value of your property, he will then almost certainly not qualify for benefits. He may also be liable for maintenance payments for you and/or the child from assets 'gained' on divorce. He might be wiser to agree to no-fault, no-penalty divorce where no money is claimed or changes hands and you each go your separate ways.

More detail would be useful but in any case, good luck.