30th Birthday Celebrations

Justwed08

Hi - my Son is celebrating his 30th birthday next month and wants a big party and special presents!! I can still remember doing all this for his 21st birthday - am I being mean saying no? Is a 30th birthday that special these days? My OH reckons that we should just spend the same amount as we did for his birthday last year and ignore requests for something special?? Any advice gratefully received!

clearing_out_my_pockets

Good God! As someone who turns 30 next year, I would not expect my parents to be arranging my birthday party - let him arrange his own party!

onlyroz

If he wants a party he can organise one himself at his own expense. He's not a kid anymore - if he still wants to be treated like one then I suggest you hire a bouncy castle and start making up party bags.

Apricot

I would maybe get him a slightly more expensive present (but obviously that depends on what you usually spend anyway) but as for a party, if he wants one - he is a grown man now so should arrange it and pay for it himself!

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I thought 30 was a cause for celebration?

I would LIKE to think I would get a 30th Birthday ‘bash’ – but then I never had a 21st party. By ‘Bash’ I don’t mean a party but a meal with family instead.


What are "special" presents? has he made a list?! I'd shove it down his neck in all honesty! I took my OH on a weekend break in the lake district when he turned 30 in March but I go OTT on birthdays and christmas

kazwookie

Tell him to grow up!

He wants a party, then he arranges and pays for it, end off!

CH27

He's got a bloomin nerve:eek:

He's an adult. If he wants a party he can arrange it & pay for it himself.

onlyroz

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

I would LIKE to think I would get a 30th Birthday ‘bash’

"Getting" a bash laid on for you is fine if you're a child, or if you're in a relationship, but once you've left home it would seem a bit strange for mummy to be organising your parties.

BenL

Tell him you would love to attend his party, you might even pay for your own meal and/or drinks ;-)

No special presents required, I'm assuming he has no partner? They would "usually" pick up the large surprise present/trips/meals etc for 30th.

shy-but-need-help

I'd say 30 is special but I always assumed that after your 21st then birthday celebrations were down to the birthday person themself or their partner/spouse to organise- I certainly wouldn't have thought it was my parents job nor would I have tried to make them think it was.

I would just get him a nice present to celebrate being 30 but I wouldn't be footing the bill for a big party- I'd probably help with the practical side but certainly not the financial. You have to ask yourself what happens if you say yes? Next he'll be expecting you to arrange his 40th, then 50th... I was sort of raised to see it as when I got to twenties/thirties it was time for me to start taking care of my parents afterall they have raised me.

fosters123

To me a 30th is an occasion, but to expect your parents to throw you a party?? Give him jelly an icecream!