Elderly mum with cash/assets? Tough, it's her money not yours!!!

craftygranny

My oh's mum and dad are both in their 80's and much to my sil's horror we encouraged them to move to a bungalow ( housing association ) as better for mum who's blind. They then sold the house and the money sat in the bank so i persuaded them to buy the things they'd always wanted and never had. Dad bought a brand new car and a new leather suite he bought a camper van too but he can't manage that anymore so he sold it and was going to stay home. Now i persuaded him to still go on holiday but stay in hotels etc.
My poor sil sits there and everytime they mention they've been spending she's nearly in tears and says that's my inheritance. This is the same sil who goes on 3 or 4 cruises a year plus other holidays and in her words is leaving nothing to her kids she's worked for her money ( well her oh has ) and they can all do the same ( she has 5) . I have to laugh at her.

catfish50

kaya wrote: »

i think you will find despite your judgemental attitude most people are doing nothing more sinister than trying to stop the governbent from stealing the money that their mum has worked so hard for all her life , my nan has very advanced altzheimers, do you think we should give all her money to the government so they can fritter it away on rubbish?

Why is it rubbish, do you have concerns about the quality of care she's receiving?

shellsuit

I can't abide selfish ignorant people who only think of 'what they can get'.

I would rather have my parents living and breathing, I am an only child and have NO desire to 'cash in' when they die. I'd rather they sell up and go travelling and enjoy their lives.


My husbands family make me sick over this. Husband came out of work to look after his Grandma while she was dying of cancer. He wasn't in the will (hubby had fallen out with his Dad years previous and his Dad had got Grandma to change her will to take my husband out of it!) so wasn't doing it for anything like that, just out of love and concern.

When she died, my husband's Dad was due to receive around 50K and husbands brother around 30K. They were full of promises that they would give him some money, his Dad promised to buy him a car for all he had done (even took him to choose one!) ~ yet when the money eventually came through, they wasted the bloody lot and didn't give or do anything for my husband. And my husband never complained once. I felt sooooo bad for him, it was so sh!tty of them to do that.

Funny thing is that now they are all up to their eyeballs in debt and have many problems, whereas we have nothing of the sort