contacting people on social networks not sure about this?

red_devil

Wondered what you would do?

My sister has asked me to get in touch with someone on FR for her and pass on her email address? She isnt listed on FR on FB herself but knows I am.

This person she wants me to get in touch with is an old flame. Im not sure why she wants contact and whether its a good idea. She hasnt said. We live along way from one another and dont see each other much so much of our chat is thru email and text.

Im not sure whether I should or maybe i should and just leave it to them? If there were any fallouts from it i might feel responsible for passing on the info? i feel cautious i cant help it? Would you be wary or would you just go ahead and pass on the message. Sister is expecting me to do it in the next few days. Am i worrying too much how would you feel about this?

thorsoak

If you don't feel comfortable about it - then don't do it. If your sister has a hidden agenda, then it should be her hidden agenda without dragging you into it!

brians_daughter

Hi Red, 2 sides to this...
1. If you dont feel at ease doing it then dont
2. You are simply doing as she asked.

You evidently dont feel at ease or you would have done it by now. Idea? maybe she could join herself? If she cant due to inet issues etc could you set an account up on her behalf and email from her account ? That way you arent being the 'piggy in the middle' to some extent, however you would still be party to it in some manner

In all honesty, if i was your sis and i really wanted to get in touch with someone i would go to the effort of setting up an account and making contact myself. SHe obviously has some access to the internet as she wants you to pass on an email addy...or maybe its the old schoolgirl coming out in her? you know the old 'go on, ask johns mate to ask john will he come the cinema with me' type thing?

Also, from the old flames POV - what would they think?
I know if i got an email from an ex's brother giving me the ex's details i may feel uneasy that i had been 'being spoken about' - i dunno why? but i would!

If shes looking to rekindle some friendship/romance the way she is suggesting probably isnt the right way to do it

pigpen

I'd tell her to grow up and do her own dirty work and I'd not be brought into it. It all sounds very schoolgirly and silly.

onlyroz

Why can't she sign up herself?

fiscalfreckles

No, don't get involved. Your sister can easily sign up to Facebook or FR herself & I don't understand why she doesn't?

brians_daughter

Just to add, these sites do seem to bring the old school girl/boy out in ppl. My SIL is very level headed, good job, well educated, wont stand no messing about from anyone but joined FB and an old ex (who she wasnt even that into at the time lol) got in touch... well, she turned into this completely different woman. My oh said she almost regressed to how she was at school when she spoke about him. Even down to the twiddling of hair and giggling associated with school girl crushes!

Must be the memories of being young, single and carefree that triggers it all imo!

Now, if theres no hidden agenda and no one else to hurt then it can be a good thing. But i fear that next week we will have a post saying 'i have changed my user name blah blah but i have just found out my hubby is meeting a woman he used to go out with. Her sister emailed him her details via FB and i dont know what to do next'

*max*

I may be having a brain freeze here, but what's FR?

brians_daughter

*max* wrote: »

I may be having a brain freeze here, but what's FR?

Friends reunited i expect

*max*

Oh! Yes, that would make sense...:p

georgie262

Personally I'd do it but if you aren't comfortbale with this then don't. One of my friends has asked me to pass her details on to another person as this person is in the profession the first friend really wants to get involved with. It's a different scenario I suppose as the two frinds don't know each other so I'm acting as an introduction...