Frauding the CSA

DX2

Daisy,

Believe me I know how she feels! There is nothing more heartbreaking than the other person (I won't use the word parent!) not wanting anything to do with the child. I'm not disputing that he isn't trying it on, but if he is anything like my non person he will have an answer for everything.

It must be even harder when they all live so close together, that's the only blessing I have, there are a few hundred miles between us and the non person. I may well not have been able to control my actions if we all lived in the same place

Tell your friend not to cancel her case £20 better in her pocket than his! and if anything she at least knows feathers have been ruffled.

They (the wife and non person) seem to forget that children and step children staying in the same place will no doubt come into contact with each other sooner or later.

daisyduke1 wrote: »

I actually couldnt agree more with you, to be honest. And i feel for my friend, and she has done a good job for 12 year raising her daughter on her own. no penny from the father from day dot basically. (all living in the same town remember) wife knew all along about his other child, But only when my friend plucked up enough courage to Go to CSA, Its ruffled their feathers. Because their lives have now changed and he has to part with £20 a week.

Its like saying the daughter he doesnt see is (nothing) and doesnt deserve anything because hes never been there. So by reclaiming back the £20 for his daughter he lives with is taking the pee basically.

Im not going to say anymore about it. As my friend is deeply upset about the whole case, and only wanted help about the current situation in what she could actually do about it and is fraud to lie. Not questioned about wether she knows for sure there still together or not. When its well known fact they are as we all live within walking distance our friends friends or there's

My friend has now decided not to even bother taking any money from him. and is going to Cancel the claim with CSA as she cant deal with the fact hes taking the CSA for a Ride.


Thanks so much for everyones input

clearingout

hmmm...woman has affair with married man and wonders why married man wont' face up to his responsibilities? she expected the wife to be her friend and somehow make this man face his responsibilities?

don't get me wrong, I feel for your friend and applaud her for facing up to it and getting on with it (and doing a good job as well!). And I particularly feel for the daughter who is the innocent in all of this. But if you play with fire, you can't really expect sympathy when your fingers get burnt, can you?

She should keep on claiming that £20 and speak with the CSA about what sort of evidence they will need to prove that fraud is being committed. And perhaps have some empathy with the wife who sounds like one of the most down-trodden, miserable people I've ever come across. I hope she finds it in herself one day to give him the boot for good.

daisyduke1

clearingout wrote: »

hmmm...woman has affair with married man and wonders why married man wont' face up to his responsibilities? she expected the wife to be her friend and somehow make this man face his responsibilities?

don't get me wrong, I feel for your friend and applaud her for facing up to it and getting on with it (and doing a good job as well!). And I particularly feel for the daughter who is the innocent in all of this. But if you play with fire, you can't really expect sympathy when your fingers get burnt, can you?

She should keep on claiming that £20 and speak with the CSA about what sort of evidence they will need to prove that fraud is being committed. And perhaps have some empathy with the wife who sounds like one of the most down-trodden, miserable people I've ever come across. I hope she finds it in herself one day to give him the boot for good.

Like i said cannot say anymore about the actaull case on what my friend is doing about it.

Yes you play with fire and get burnt thats exactly what happend to him.

Did he expect my friend to crawl back under stone when she got pregnant. It takes two people to make a baby not one person so takes two people to be fininacialy responsible for raising that child. And Yes she had an affair but the end of the day hes the one that is married he was the one that should never have gone down that path. He should start showing his wife and Kids respect. And take it on the chin like a man.

His wife needs to get some back bone her and get him to ****. She is punishing my friend Daughter for her husband wandering ****.

If he never lied to his wife in the first place. and done the decent thing any man/father would. by handing my friend even a couple of quid a week to help raise her Daughter. No body would be in this situation.

He thought because she didnt come begging he got away with out paying.

Now its came back to bit him the butt. And because they have another child. he thinks one is worth more than the other. WRONG by all means.


No more said on the Case in what my friend is actually doing about it.

Thanks so much for everyones input on this.