What is love and why are you getting married?

becks92

Because he makes me whole, because he brought back my belief in dreams and because I do not work without him

Simples

twirlypinky

He's my true best friend - the only person that i can tell anything and everything, he knows me inside out, and i know him inside out. He also has this amazing smile that makes my heart beat a little bit faster - cheesy though that is.

We're getting married for several reasons, not all of them romantic. I want us to have a family name - if we had children as we are now we'd have different surnames. It's really important to him - not so much for me, i've been married and divorced in my early-mid twenties, my parents are divorced and i'd sort of lost faith in "marraige" but i can see how much it means to him and because of that it means more to me.

I also really like the idea of "sealing" the deal with our closest friends and family there with us. Not sure why really. I guess all the disney films i've watched over the years have sunk in somewhere.

wanchai_2

What a lovely thread!!! *subscribes*

bubbles0169

i dont think theres much point in subscribing as the last post before yours was may lol you might get more posts now youve bumped it though

Idiophreak

I know I love my wife for a whole bunch of reasons. I'm happiest when we're together. I ache when we're apart. My heart skips when she smiles at me and it hurts to see her sad.

It sounds a bit weak, but I married her because I was terrified of dying without her as my wife. I don't want to die with regrets and not standing up in front of our family and friends and telling her how much I love her is definitely something I'd have regretted.

The legal stuff wasn't overly important - she was named on my life assurance etc already. And the wedding day was amazing, but wasn't really the point. The most important thing was that she'd be my wife, I'd be her husband and we'd be bound together for life.

Dekazer

How funny - I was reading this thread and thinking, aww, there's a few old names. I can't believe I missed it the first time around

I married my husband for two reasons which I shared with everyone during my speech. First was that having him as my official legal next of kin brings me enormous comfort. Second is that I wanted to give all our friends and family a lovely party to thank them for treating me as OH's wife, and OH as my husband, as part of the family, and supporting us both as a couple.

I love OH for all the soppy reasons you could guess - his kindness, decency, humour, sensibleness (is that even a word?!), his compassion, his thoughtfulness, his mind and cleverness, and y'know, I fancy him like the blazes too.

We had this poem read at our ceremony, and it sums a lot up, I think.. I think it's about caring for each other through loving actions, practical as well as romantic.

Atlas, by U. A. Fanthorpe

There is a kind of love called maintenance,
Which stores the WD40 and knows when to use it;

Which checks the insurance, and doesn't forget
The milkman; which remembers to plant bulbs;

Which answers letter; which knows the way
The money goes; which deals with dentists

And Road Fund Tax and meeting trains,
And postcards to the lonely; which upholds

The permanently ricketty elaborate
Structures of living; which is Atlas.

And maintenance is the sensible side of love,
Which knows what time and weather are doing
To my brickwork; insulates my faulty wiring;
Laughs at my dryrotten jokes; remembers
My need for gloss and grouting; which keeps
My suspect edifice upright in air,
As Atlas did the sky.

Hollie84

Love for me is that feeling i get in my tummy when im with OH even after 6years he still gives me butterflies,i have tried to imagine life without my OH and i cant see a future without him in it.Im marrying him because he completes me,we was just meant to be,the way we met just fitted like a jigsaw.OH fell fast,id been out of a 3 year relationship for only 4 months so wasnt looking for a relationship but everything about him made me reconsider.he's a wonderful partner and a fantastic dad to our 2 children,i couldnt ask for a better partner

annalambo

I think the reason divorce rates are so high is because feeling fluctuate. People get married because they feel "in love" with someone. Then, inevitably that person disappoints. Sometimes in big ways. The feelings go, and divorce happens, or a sub-standard marriage happens. I think the opposite of love is not hate, rather it is selfishness. Love is selfless.

I am engaged and going through a pre-marital counselling course. More and more I am convinced that love is a choice and an action. It is not a feeling, as nice as the feelings and passion can be. Self sacrificial service. Sacrificing your desires and needs for those of your spouse is what will make a marriage strong and long lasting.

I am very much in the honeymoon stage still, and have all those lovey dovey feelings as well as the choice to love aspect. Don't get me wrong, I love those feelings! But there will be days without them, we will hit rough times, I will hurt and disappoint FH and he will do the same to me, no matter how hard we try!!

Why am I marrying him? Because I am a better person with him. He pushes me to selflessness and kindness. He is patient with me and cares for me. He is handsome and considerate. I don't want to spend another day without him. My life is happier and more adventurous when he is in it. I can't wait to live with him and share a life and a name with him.

double_mummy

i am marrying my man because I gave him 2 kids so he owes me HAHAHAHAHAHA

im kidding of course we want to get married to make the family whole, for us all to have the same surname instead of 3 different ones, so that i can legally be his next of kin (he is disabled and it is a slight worry) he is my best friend and has been for many years before we were together we compliment each other perfectly he puts up with me (which means he deserves a medal or something) he is a wonderful father and i cant ever imagine having a day where we dont talk or cuddle

we've been through some horrendously bad times together and got out the other side now im pretty certain that nothing can split us up now

and it helps that he is gorgeous

wanchai_2

annalambo wrote: »

I think the reason divorce rates are so high is because feeling fluctuate. People get married because they feel "in love" with someone. Then, inevitably that person disappoints. Sometimes in big ways. The feelings go, and divorce happens, or a sub-standard marriage happens. I think the opposite of love is not hate, rather it is selfishness. Love is selfless.

I am engaged and going through a pre-marital counselling course. More and more I am convinced that love is a choice and an action. It is not a feeling, as nice as the feelings and passion can be. Self sacrificial service. Sacrificing your desires and needs for those of your spouse is what will make a marriage strong and long lasting.

I am very much in the honeymoon stage still, and have all those lovey dovey feelings as well as the choice to love aspect. Don't get me wrong, I love those feelings! But there will be days without them, we will hit rough times, I will hurt and disappoint FH and he will do the same to me, no matter how hard we try!!

Why am I marrying him? Because I am a better person with him. He pushes me to selflessness and kindness. He is patient with me and cares for me. He is handsome and considerate. I don't want to spend another day without him. My life is happier and more adventurous when he is in it. I can't wait to live with him and share a life and a name with him.

Well said. I agree 100%.