Anyone have experience of CAMHS for their child?

when_will_it_end

teabag29 wrote: »

My dd harms herself when she gets frustrated but not cutting or anything like that she will headbutt or punch herself or bite her hands

self harm comes in so many different forms, its horrible in any of them, especially when its your child

i used to(still do sometimes)blame my self, i should have searched her room better, i should not have jumped in the shower, i should have just bought take away instead of cooking

thats why i suggested getting some help for your self as your DD will need even more support, she will be talking about things that are hard, opening cans of worms maybe, you need to be prepared and have some one to help you

i used to stuggle at trying to keep it together, not breaking down because i feel so helpless and guilty, i to now have my own coping stratagies, if she has a really bad week i have a wonderfull friend who will have her over night so i can rest, all i do is chill on the sofa watching tv, but the peace is bliss

i also have a draw in the kitchen with a lock on it i keep anything i think she can harm herself with in it

she also attends a group with 5 other teenagers going threw the same or similar thing, she seems to enjoy it there going on a day trip soon, is there any thing like this near you? maybe ask the CHAMS

SingleSue

For us, an urgent appointment was 6 months after referral (what a picture the headmaster's face was when I told him we had an appointment through but that it was for 6 months time). This was for an incredibly violent and aggressive child with the strength of 10 men at age 5 and one who had been temporarily excluded from school 9 times in less than a half term due to his aggression.

Mind you, this was also 9 years ago amd in Suffolk.

earwig

when_will_it_end wrote: »

teabag29 wrote: »

Yes I found this online to and gave it a go. The scores showed my dd to be in the abnormal range for all of the sections (except hyperactivity where she was borderline) particularly the conduct section which is where she scored the highest and I think the school would score her high on this section to. Her father was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder age 11, I wonder if this is hereditory. My mum was also a skitzophrenic.[/QUOTE]


i would mention this to CHAMS

hi the dr at cahm told me that szicophrnia is not hereditory i know my late mother had it and her sister and her son my daughter suffers for mental health issues i find it a bit strange that out of 5 people four have problems and one dont yet there is no link and they really dont like diagonseing children so young so be prepeared for a lot of try this wait and see i have to say my time at cahms which has been 7 years now has not always been good or helpfull it depends on who you get good luck

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Have you considered filming her outbursts on your mobile/a pocket camcorder/your laptop so that they can see what she is like in private?

Surely they wouldn't be able to argue with video footage of her demonstrating all the behaviour the school doesn't see/acknowledge.

teabag29

yes I have started to try this, I filmed her on my mobile talking to herself but have not managed to capture her behaviour episodes yet as usually when she kicks off I need to be on hand to try and calm her and make sure the other children aren't in danger. I have been keeping a diary of her behaviour for the past 6 weeks and reading it back its amazing how much she does that over time I have just accepted as normal. It's really highlights how bad she is and how much ive been having to deal with.

kurgon

earwig wrote: »

when_will_it_end wrote: »

hi the dr at cahm told me that szicophrnia is not hereditory i know my late mother had it and her sister and her son my daughter suffers for mental health issues i find it a bit strange that out of 5 people four have problems and one dont yet there is no link and they really dont like diagonseing children so young so be prepeared for a lot of try this wait and see i have to say my time at cahms which has been 7 years now has not always been good or helpfull it depends on who you get good luck

Having parents that have mentl health issues can mean that there is a higher chance that offspring will also get them, nut only a higher chance. They are not hereditary, just increased proportions of people with schizophrenia have children that go on ot develop the illness, as compared to the norm. BPD is not hereditary but is a social learnt illness and there is no evidence that the illness carries any biological determinants that may be apssed on.