My child is killing me

oops_a_daisy

there was a similar thing to this a while ago link HERE I havent re read all of it but it may have some information to help.

Baggiebird1nil

Never mind sit down and talk to him I would give him a right crack and make him pay it off. Buy him Martin's new book as his Christmas present!

Louisepp

This must be very upsetting and worrying for you, but I really can't see how it's Natwests responsibility to deal with in the first place.

If your son stole some money out of your wallet/purse and went and spent it at the arcade or whatever, would you be down there asking for your money back?

This is between you and your son. He needs to learn to take responsibility for his actions....not the bank IMO

ihatechoosingnames

sorry to hear about what happened..

personally, i really don't think you reporting your son to the police would help relations between you. regardless of his age, he may not have realised the seriousness of what he did.

good luck with it all

Contains_Mild_Peril

southernscouser wrote:

This might seem extreme but an option could be reporting it to the police. You'd at least get a crime number which would make Natwest sit up and take notice. Obviously this could have consequences to your son! Depends how far you want to take it!

That might actually be not a bad idea. Maybe the OP could talk informally to a friendly police officer and ask hypothetically what would happen if she were to report it officially. I don't think the police would want to give the child a criminal record or anything, but a good talking to at the the police station might convince him of the seriousness of the matter.
I have to confess I usually leave my credit card in my easily accessible purse, and I don't constantly supervise my 13-year-old when he's online. I don't think he'd have any difficulty whatsoever in using my card without authorisation if he dared.
I can understand credit card companies' reluctance to refund for claims of fraudulent use by a family member at the same address, so a crime reference number might be useful. The game site might also be more inclined to refund if threatened with bad publicity. As has been suggested, it may be best to write to them if you have a postal address, and if possible, find out the name of the person to whom you ought to address the letter. E-mails probably just get stock answers, with no consideration of individual circumstances.
If all that doesn't work and the money does have to be repaid, I'd write to newspapers etc, which would probably be quite interested in the story, and would warn other parents. As for the money, if it isn't refunded then the boy must take responsibility. How much pocket money does he get? He should forfeit it for as long as it takes to repay the debt (though I'd probably be a bit soft and let him keep 50p a week after the first couple of months). Have his Christmas presents been bought yet? If you've only bought a few, I wouldn't buy him any more, and tell him that the money that would have been spent on his Christmas presents now has to go towards the credit card bill.
It may do him a lot of good to learn early on that running up debts irresponsibly has nasty consequences. It's an important lesson which will stay with him in adulthood.

tomstickland

I've had a quick look at the site. Is it a virtual world game play sort of thing then?

sheryldoc

I think that having a chat with the police may not be such a bad idea.. obv would depend on what they did to him.. but a caution at this stage rather than after hes 16 would maybe make him realise what hes done?

Your card was stolen.. you didnt give him pin as he wouldnt hav needed it.. so I dnt see why the fact it was your son matters to the company?.. cant u chargeback? or was it a debit card?

I hope you get it sorted..x

nick1234

didnt you tell him in the first place how much he can spend and what he can buy, when i read your story i thought u were a women/mother until you mentioned the father bit! seems ridiculous to me he would do that and a 12 yr old is hardly a baby!

Id just sell the games he bought on ebay and claim some money back, unless like someone said go to the police.

BargainAholic_2

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See... no credit card involved...

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AGAIN.... THIS IS NOT A GENUINE REQUEST FOR HELP BUT A CON



** REPORTED FOR FORUM ABUSE **

Millionare

BargainAholic wrote:

This is a HOAX - Do not click on the site, its a con to get as many people to click on the link as the person who gets the most "victims" wins gold....


Rules from the site...

"Vampir Game Basics

You require nothing more than an internet connection and a web browser (e.g. Internet Explorer) to play MonstersGame. Click on "Register" and decide whether you want to join the clan of the vampires or that of the werewolves. Registration is quite easy, doesn't cost you anything and there is no further obligation on your part.

Once you have registered you find yourself on the overview page of your RPG character. Here you can find important information about your character and also your victim-link, with which you can find victims in the far reaches of the internet by placing the link appropriately"


See... no credit card involved...

I only know this cuz I'm an internet gamer myself... FOR FREE


AGAIN.... THIS IS NOT A GENUINE REQUEST FOR HELP BUT A CON



** REPORTED FOR FORUM ABUSE **

haha your too good, good one!