Relate?

Wonder_Womble

In my area Relate costs depend on your total income, so if you are on benefits you pay the token £1 charge. If you both earn an average wage it used to be £40 per session about 6 years ago.

As said before, it is money down the drain if both partners aren't wanting to work things out and be totally honest.

You can go on your own and you brother may wish to do this anyway to try and overcome what ever it is that your SIL has done.

HTH

clearingout

it may be worth a google of 'mid life crisis' as there is some interesting information out there (alot of amateur psychology but some of it is useful) and it will give an insight into what he might be dealing with. I don't think 'love' has much to do with it, we love a lot of people through our lives but it doesn't mean we're able to live with them or even be around them for very long. If she has done something dreadful, it will be worth your brother seeking counselling support on his own if he's going to try and work it out - he will need to understand his motives and the risks he will be taking in doing this. I can't imagine many relationships 'work out' once they have got to the point of separation.

It is perhaps early days for legal advice, but he may want to reassure himself on his legal position. The advice on https://www.wikivorce.com is as good as he might get and it's free. If he has a root around that site, he'll get an idea of what's in store legally, if not emotionally as well.

ladymarmalade1970

My ex and i did relate and they said we should split up. We used to come out so upset as we didn't want to split up but they were right and we did split up in the end.
I would recommend it as i think it does help a lot of couples and whilst we did split up it does help to see the other person side more clearly and freely.
I think we paid about £30 per session but that was years ago.

notechno

I paid £45 per hourly session 18 months ago. Unfortunately, I consider it money wasted. I had an introductory session with one counsellor, who was brilliant. Then I had to wait for a vacancy for a weekly session - this was with a counsellor recently out of training and she was poor indeed, insipid is the word that springs to mind. £405.00 later I pretended everything was rosy and ran

Pee

i'VE TRIED rELATE AND BASICALLY IT INVOLVED THE COUNSELLOR LISTENING TO MY STORY IN HORROR AND TELLING ME TO LEAVE AND THEN i got the bill. Sorry about the caps lock, I'm not really shouting. I wasn't ready to leave at that time and her reaction made me feel very isolated. Other people have had lots better experiences.

We do all do things we would regret and I hope you can forgive SIL. You sound like a lovely SIL.

Pee

P.S. when I told my ex sort of SIL about our problems, I was looking for a way out. I didn't know it at the time, but subconsciously I'm sure that was my reasoning, Hope it's not the case here.