A bit of reassurance needed please

mrmrsa

My husband and I are in the middle of buying our first place and, up until a couple of weeks ago, I was so excited and eager to get it, so much so that I'd imagine us in our lovely new flat every single night while I was going to sleep!

A couple of weeks ago, the chain was finally completed and my solicitor has done everything they can on their side at the moment. Now we just need to wait until all the other people in the chain have received their mortgage offers and had their surveys done so there's not really been any news or development for a while.

I don't know if it's just because there's nothing for me to do going forward at the moment which is making my mind whirl over everything but I've gotten pretty worried about it all and am starting to think I'm having doubts about getting it. It's the best place we've seen, we both absolutely love it and could really imagine us living there despite only a very few number of boxes that it didn't tick. Some people in my family keep going on about these and any other negative aspects they can find with it which is putting doubt in my mind and causing me to not be as excited as I was before.

I really just want to get going and arrange our survey but for some reason I keep delaying this and am now worrying that we shouldn't get it.

Did anyone else feel like this before buying their first place? Am I just being stupid and scared because it's such a huge thing and should just plough ahead with it?? :huh:

shar46y

I totally understand... it is the biggest financial commitment you'll have made, and surely it would be stranger if you didn't feel a bit wobbly at times. We are in the process of buying our second house and still worried!:undecided:

Anyway, you think you've got cold feet now... wait until you actually are committed to it! I still remember the feeling when we actually picked up the keys to our flat, walked through the empty, cold, dingy rooms (which had looked so different and homely when we first viewed it) and thought "OMG, WHAT have we done????":eek:

We then went on to have 5 very happy years there and will be rather sad to leave!

hazyjo

It's amazing how others pick up on the negatives (until you're in).

We've just bought a townhouse, but the garages were leasehold, located separately behind the house. Turned out the garage ownership had never actually been transferred to those selling - it was a nightmare as they had to sort out a Deed of Variation correcting the error. It took forever.

My husband's parents especially were saying we should pull out and the house had been nothing but trouble from start to finish (when, in fact, it had only really been the garages that were a nightmare). Every time we mentioned it, we'd get their opinion. Drove us mad - and we found it upsetting as hubby's dad's terminally ill and we weren't sure at that rate he'd ever get to see the house and didn't want him to die with really negative opinions of it. Very stressful. Even we were beginning to wonder if it was 'a sign' and thought about looking round at other houses again. So many awful things had happened to us or gone wrong in our lives and our friends' lives since we'd started trying to buy it - we so very nearly jumped ship.

OMG I'm so glad we didn't. Hubby's dad has seen the house (managed to conquer all four floors!) and we absolutely LOVE it to bits. When we started having doubts, we went for another viewing. Had been nearly 5 months since we'd seen it and were forgetting so many things and putting ourselves off. Make an excuse if you don't want them thinking you're having doubts - we said we wanted to show my parents round and needed to take some measurements in order to help the removal men so we'd know what floor to put things on. Best thing we did - reaffirmed exactly why we'd fallen in love with it.

If it's one niggly thing that's getting to you, it's more important and don't ignore it. We nearly bought a house on a B road. Not a lot of traffic, but it was in the back of my mind. We had an offer sitting on the table for a while which they didn't accept. In the end, we withdrew it as we found something better (which we then lost). All I felt was relief (cos of the road issue). Go with your heart/gut instinct.

Good luck.

Jx