Anyone else fed up of wedding prep?

LEJC

Times change and traditions can eventually change.... it may not be too late to change a tier of fruit cake to a lovely tier of chocolate cake...
I understand exactly the flustrations you face and the dilema of how do you deal with unhappy parents...my mum was exactly the same with certain things!
Is there anything left in the planning cycle that you could arrange and then when she asks say "oh ive sorted it..no need to worry".
You have exactly the right attitude that its the marriage not the day that counts...but that said a few things of your own preference need to be included....you could always approach them with the words "well i'd like to start my own tradition by doing it this way".
Best of luck with whats left of your planning

wiggychick

I can remember that feeling of dread - not wanting to have that same conversation again. I'd normally give in, but something happened around the wedding that for quite a few decisions I decided that things were going to be done MY WAY!!! I can completely understand the Bridezilla red mist! Particualrly when people started interferring grrrr....
I still compromised on quite a few things but the important stuff was how I wanted it. I also learned a few things about how to assert myself!
I remember hearing an interview a few months afterward - I think it was on something like Jeremy Vine - with a lady who was talking about how parents behave at weddings, how it is their Big Day too and I was sooooo annoyed. She wasn't even using the "They paid for it, so they have a say" arguement. It was the idea that since the day you were born, their next big event was the day they see you married. "Not my problem" I thought, "still not your wedding - it's ours"
It took me quite a while to realise that even though we did everything and paid for everything, this was still a very Big Day for my Mum. I'm so glad that although we argued, made up and I refused to do some of the things she wanted I made a really big effort to make sure that she was a big part of the day.
It's nearly a year ago now and she still mentions our wedding day every time I go around, she's the only one who does.

And secretly I really like it!!!!

Wiggy

jenhug

vodkashot wrote: »

Well going back to do it how I want it would be rather expensive to simply just throw that money away. My parents are helping financially which is why they want their say. I'm sure it will all be fine.

Will i regret it, possibly, but I will regret it more if I make them unhappy. It's only one day after all and I'm not the sentimental type to think that this is the best day of our life. it isn't, everyday with Mr Vodka is. A wedding won't change that.

its fine for parents to have input, but the final decision should lie with you and mr vodka.

You have started a thread saying you are fed up with it all. What you actually point at in your original thread is your parents input is what is getting you down. You have the power to change it. If you aren't prepared to, I don't see why you have started the thread? Maybe you still like your parents telling you what to do?

wiggychick

jenhug wrote: »

Maybe you still like your parents telling you what to do?

Ouch!

Personally I think that weddings are very emotive times and any issues in family relationships come to the fore. These can usually be managed, but when it comes to a wedding it either adds to the stress or it blows up.

Not all of us are so great at dealing with the stress of everyone else's expectations. I've been there and it is a draining experience.

Wiggy xx

Miss2MrsC

Can you designate them one area to sort that you're not too bothered about? I have no interest in flowers, so I'm letting my mum make decisions about them and the table decs (although I have chosen the colour scheme). Mum's focus is on that, she's happy, I'm happy, everyone is happy!

LittleMissAspie

vodkashot wrote: »

I would rather the two of us just get married with no-one there

Why don't you then? Just book something and have a nice simple stress-free day.

vodkashot

Thanks for the comments yesterday, feeling back on track today after I had a moan with Mr Vodka.
I'm sure as the day draws nearer I will have more moans but having had some lovely comments about the invitations today, it really cheered me up.