toddlers more advanced with learning if at home with mum....

searcher30

our toddler seems to be learning a lot from us rather than the nursery/school they go to. i am told if they get too advanced too young (we are not pushing she is just a fast learner who loves having fun and asking loads of questions) then whne they go to school they get bored and become drop outs. I believe this is because the future schools may not be of good enough standard. any ideas appreciated. thanks again.

Scarlett1

schools prefer it if you didnt teach them at home as you will be teaching them differently to how they teach them (unless you follow the curriculum), nothing to stop you teaching your child numbers, colours, days of the week, months of the year though

any school worth its weight in gold would not let your child get bored and be a drop out if anything they would be given harder work to do.

Js_Other_Half

I've heard this said before, but from a personal point of view how can you prevent your child learning??

I started school at 4 1/2 - and could read, write and tell the time...my brother wasn't interested at all and we are fairly sure he couldn't read for several years...:D

(We are both graduates now, but he is the one with a Masters in computers and earns more money than I'll ever see...:p )

As long as you make your toddler's days fun, and perhaps check out with the primary school you want him/her to attend how they approach things, I can only see it being positive.

Gabriel-Ernest

searcher30 wrote:

our toddler seems to be learning a lot from us rather than the nursery/school they go to.

How can you tell? Isn't it more likely that all the new experiences are processed together?

aurora_borealis_2

I was told not to teach at home as well.

There was no stopping them though, they were books mad! It wasn't a conscious effort, but they were all reading and writing at 3 years old.

With hindsight, I'm glad because they went to Welsh school so they had to learn the language as well.

Two in uni now, so I couldn't have done too much damage.

Alleycat

Gabriel-Ernest wrote:

How can you tell? Isn't it more likely that all the new experiences are processed together?

I agree. We are reinforcing what is learnt at nursery and vice versa. I make sure to tell nursery if she has learnt a new 'trick' and they do the same. So with colours for example, her keyworker told me that she had learnt the basic colours and could say some of them, so we actively encouraged this at home.

lottee

aurora_borealis wrote:

There was no stopping them though, they were books mad! It wasn't a conscious effort, but they were all reading and writing at 3 years old.

OMG !!! I am off to read my 4 y/o a bedtime story straight away, but I will be getting him to try & help me tonight! That's fab, if my son could read now I would think he was a genius, never mind a year ago !!!

Did you read to them from a very young age, or did they just seem to pick it up?

aurora_borealis_2

lottee wrote:

OMG !!! I am off to read my 4 y/o a bedtime story straight away, but I will be getting him to try & help me tonight! That's fab, if my son could read now I would think he was a genius, never mind a year ago !!!

Did you read to them from a very young age, or did they just seem to pick it up?

From three months old. They loved it. They would all pick up a book before any toy. When they woke in the morning as they got older, I would give them a pile of books and get an extra half hour in bed

There is 17 months between the first two and the second one practically taught herself by peering over her sister's shoulder.

I've got three huge boxes of books standing in the hall now ready for Christmas. They still can't get enough of them

Juicy_Tube

My LO is almost 10 months and I have made a conscious effort to read to him every night since he was born. He loves his books already and has his favourites too(or Mummy and Daddy's faves.). We just pick short ones, but he is already able to choose the one he wants to read and shuts the book if he is not interested;)

As soon as I open a book, he is sitting in front of me, excited, waiting to pull open the flaps etc.:D

JT x

jellyhead

my 15 month old grabs books, climbs onto our knees and settles in for a cuddle. he loves books and asks for them constantly. he's probably got 50 at home but we borrow from the library too and when we go into mothercare for a nappy change he has a good look at theirs too he started with books at 3 months old. current favourites are 'tiger' by nick butterworth and 'we're going on a bear hunt'. he prefers books to toys and definitely prefers books to kids TV.

i don't know if this is an indication that he'll be a clever child though. i was reading at age 3 but from reading my posts you'd never think i had any genius in me :rotfl: my husband was always 'a bit thick' when younger and didn't read for fun until he was ten but he did well at uni and is cleverer than i am.

it might be worth talking to the school and seeing which methods they use. they might have a particular way of forming letters, i got that wrong with my eldest and he found it really difficult adding all the tails and flicks onto his letters, he kept telling the teachers that they were wrong because his mum said blah blah blah. also, school really struggle with kids who've been taught letterland by parents and would rather it wasn't used at all.

vippymini

I belive kids learn from home and us just as much as school especially siblings, I have been lucky with mine, my eldest reads and writes very well, my 6 year old (yr1) has just been classed talalanted and gifted at school as her reading and writing and knowledge is fantastic and school has picked up on this, they are now taking her off a few times a week to do year 2 work.

my 4 and 2 year old are following in there footsteps as they both love books and writing.

I have been lucky as im at home all day and my DH is at home in the afternoons as he works nights so they get the imput from both of us and you can see the reward of that comming out. The one thing we dont do is push them with anything including homework . If they want to do it the do and nine times out of ten they do it loff there own backs and enjoy it , start to force them and they dont want to touch it.
Fingers crossed they will all keep enjoying the school work and go along way :-)