Buying house but can't trust my wife !

django_2

Basically we are living toghether for our kid only. We can't stand eachother but we are both are good parents i quess well she is a good mom. we love our kid, he is the only reason i'm living with her.anyway The story is i want to buy a 3 bedroom room house but i can't trust my wife in case of divorce she can claim the half of it or more. I've already bought a 1 bedroom flat in her name years ago which is now rented and the money goes into her account. The thing is i don't want to end up broke with nothing if she leaves me and divorce. Is there any form or lets can i arrange it with a soliciter before buying the house in case of divorce she won't get anything from the house?She is happy to sign any form about this matter but still can't trust her. Any tip is much appreciated many thanks pete

Angela_D_3

No she's your wife what hers is yours and vice versa, get a divorce kids are never happy living in those circumstances.

roswell

Must agree if you feel that you cant trust your wife why wait to buy a house, get divorced then get a house.

Alan_M_2

You could get an agreement written up, similar to the pre nup's that seem to be popular nowadays, although it would be post nup I suppose. Other than that, get divorced, the tension int he house must be unbearable, I've lived like that and it's quite the most depressing situation, when my wife finally made alternative arrangemtns the relief was immense, and bizarrely we get on now better divorced than we ever did married because the tension is gone.

BobProperty

Get divorced. You sound like you are only putting off the inevitable and the child will soon realise, if they don't already, that the set up is a sham. (Been there, in the process of doing it, kids understand)

Gabriel-Ernest

If you do divorce, where and how do you propose that your ex-wife and son will live?

A_Nice_Englishman

Gabriel-Ernest wrote:

If you do divorce, where and how do you propose that your ex-wife and son will live?

I'd suggest django has the one bed flat and Mrs django and django junior stay where they are now.

xadoc

Pre nups are not legally binding in UK. Institution of marriage takes precedence - after all, the rules are there to protect the more vulnerable party; what would be the point in allowing the more powerful party to set up a contract to override them?

I think people enter into them because US celebs do, but it would only be taken as an expression of intent by the courts. People seems shocked Paul McCartney did not make one with Heather Mills before they wed - but if not legally binding, what's the point?

I agree with all others here; get divorced. All advice from professionals is that children are happier when parents are happier, and no-one can be happy living a lie.

The best case scenario is that you get on well and both bring your son up in a loving, supportive way, whether in the same building or not. Even if you're living together for his benefit, there must be tensions and so it'd be healthier for you all if you lived seperately, and as someone said above - maybe you'd even get on better then?

dkny_2

Ive just read your original post and feel very sad for you and your family..sorry things are like this, isnt there any way you can trust her - sorry i dont want to sound like an agony aunt but if you dont trust her do u really want to live this way? I think that you should have a divorce as everyone will be happier and most importantly your little one will realise sooner or later that something is up with mummy and daddy, kids usually do pick up on these things more than we realise..please dont be so unhappy do you love her even though you dont trust her? if you do and you can, maybe work things out and first and maybe buy a house later?? if not, im sure solictor can arrange some sort of a contract between yourself and your wife...But you will have to prove when and if you divorce that this was not signed under duress (basically being pressured) otherwise she will be entitled to half of the house.

I really hope you sort this out especially as there is a child involved.

Wish you and your family all the best, good luck, please do let us know how you get on.

real1314

django wrote:

Basically we are living toghether for our kid only. We can't stand eachother but we are both are good parents i quess well she is a good mom. we love our kid, he is the only reason i'm living with her.anyway The story is i want to buy a 3 bedroom room house but i can't trust my wife in case of divorce she can claim the half of it or more. I've already bought a 1 bedroom flat in her name years ago which is now rented and the money goes into her account. The thing is i don't want to end up broke with nothing if she leaves me and divorce. Is there any form or lets can i arrange it with a soliciter before buying the house in case of divorce she won't get anything from the house?She is happy to sign any form about this matter but still can't trust her. Any tip is much appreciated many thanks pete

Get some proper counselling. living like you are proposing will not do you, her or your child any good.
You need to sort things out one way or another. Setting up a situation that increases the stresses and risks in your situation will only push things toward a more extreme split.

helpMe_2-2

Aside from the "get a divorce now" and prenup discussions, you could go for a Declaration of Trust agreement where you divvy up the house between you in percentage form - however you'd both need to agree to it and judging by the circumstances your wife may not.