Embarrassing DLA Question... (Female question, but all welcome!)

saving_pennies

I was actually talking to someone today about having children. I receive HRC and HRM and have carers. Some carers are judgemental and say it isn't possible but I actually spoke to a carer who used to be a midwife and she has helped many disabled people to have children.

I am one of the youngest service users that the care agency I use sees and I often talk about who I fancy, dates, sex etc with them. Some of them seem to think being disabled means I can't do anything; others treat me as if I am not disabled. I do wonder what it would be like if one morning my carer turned up to find me in bed with someone! On the other hand, the last person I dated didn't want to stay at mine because I have carer's visiting me

LadyMorticia

Heya hun. Don't worry about it. I think there would be hell to pay if DLA had a problem with disabled people wanting and enjoying sex. I have M.E too so I know what you're going through. I feel sorry for my OH though. He hardly ever gets any because sometimes I'm too exhausted to even move properly.:o

fadetogrey

Isolus wrote: »

Ha ha ha, thank you everybody - a few giggles and a lot of reassurance, just what i needed!

I know it sounded a bit silly, but it did worry me a bit.. even the the thought of it being on my notes for GPs to see. But i guess i'll just do as advised and make sure there's no ceiling - swinging occuring when a doctor/benefits official is round. :rotfl:

whats a sex life??:(:(:(

starchild1972

saving_pennies wrote: »

I was actually talking to someone today about having children. I receive HRC and HRM and have carers. Some carers are judgemental and say it isn't possible but I actually spoke to a carer who used to be a midwife and she has helped many disabled people to have children.

I am one of the youngest service users that the care agency I use sees and I often talk about who I fancy, dates, sex etc with them. Some of them seem to think being disabled means I can't do anything; others treat me as if I am not disabled. I do wonder what it would be like if one morning my carer turned up to find me in bed with someone! On the other hand, the last person I dated didn't want to stay at mine because I have carer's visiting me

Tell them to google Alison Lapper!

saving_pennies

starchild1972 wrote: »

Tell them to google Alison Lapper!

Wow. It's great to see this woman embracing life and fulfilling dreams and being a mother, all enhanced I am sure by her attitude towards her disability. I think showing this to the couple carers who were judgemental towards me might just shut them up!