Embarrassing DLA Question... (Female question, but all welcome!)

edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Disability Money Matters
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  • I was actually talking to someone today about having children. I receive HRC and HRM and have carers. Some carers are judgemental and say it isn't possible but I actually spoke to a carer who used to be a midwife and she has helped many disabled people to have children.

    I am one of the youngest service users that the care agency I use sees and I often talk about who I fancy, dates, sex etc with them. Some of them seem to think being disabled means I can't do anything; others treat me as if I am not disabled. I do wonder what it would be like if one morning my carer turned up to find me in bed with someone! :p On the other hand, the last person I dated didn't want to stay at mine because I have carer's visiting me :(
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    Heya hun. :) Don't worry about it. I think there would be hell to pay if DLA had a problem with disabled people wanting and enjoying sex. I have M.E too so I know what you're going through. I feel sorry for my OH though. He hardly ever gets any because sometimes I'm too exhausted to even move properly.:o
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    Ha ha ha, thank you everybody - a few giggles and a lot of reassurance, just what i needed! :)

    I know it sounded a bit silly, but it did worry me a bit.. even the the thought of it being on my notes for GPs to see. But i guess i'll just do as advised and make sure there's no ceiling - swinging occuring when a doctor/benefits official is round. :rotfl:

    whats a sex life??:(:(:(
    counting down the time I got left.:beer::beer:
  • I was actually talking to someone today about having children. I receive HRC and HRM and have carers. Some carers are judgemental and say it isn't possible but I actually spoke to a carer who used to be a midwife and she has helped many disabled people to have children.

    I am one of the youngest service users that the care agency I use sees and I often talk about who I fancy, dates, sex etc with them. Some of them seem to think being disabled means I can't do anything; others treat me as if I am not disabled. I do wonder what it would be like if one morning my carer turned up to find me in bed with someone! :p On the other hand, the last person I dated didn't want to stay at mine because I have carer's visiting me :(

    Tell them to google Alison Lapper!
  • Tell them to google Alison Lapper!

    Wow. It's great to see this woman embracing life and fulfilling dreams and being a mother, all enhanced I am sure by her attitude towards her disability. I think showing this to the couple carers who were judgemental towards me might just shut them up!
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