Fresh start ahead

daddiesrcool

After having my LBM moment i had seeked advice from the wonderful CAP regarding my finances my DMP was set up and after early three sucessful months i have managed to pay into my account and the threat of telephone calls have eased and letters to. The problem i suffer with now is DEPRESSION i am strugging and my past has really caught up with me i should feel happy that i am getting sorted but i am just so miserable. I just want to start a thread to share my thoughts and feelings over the next three years of me been a Debt free wannabe to changing my health and life style for good.Tomorrow i have decided i am going to take the next big step and go and see a Doctor about why i feel the way i do

jonjamie1970

Hi mate, congratulations on your DMP and taking control, was the depression induced by the financial troubles or a long standing issue ?
I am also a depressive but manage it very well and only myself and my ex wife know that this is the case.

surrey648

I totally understand where you're coming from! I also thought that a weight would be lifted, and that I would immediately feel better... alas not!

I too ended up at the GP, who didn't really understand and gave me pills... I didn't want to mask the problem, I wanted to get it out of my system. Do you have close friends or family you can talk to? Don't keep it in! I hope your GP gives you the help you need and deserve, in whatever form that takes!

It took me quite a while to get used to the situation, and thankfully my friends and family have been a godsend!

It DOES get easier/better... I promise you that... you have done a brilliant thing, and we are here to give you anonymous/virtual support! Please use this forum to vent, talk and we will be there for you! Afterall, we've all been exactly where you are now!

Mothermercury30

surrey648 wrote: »

I totally understand where you're coming from! I also thought that a weight would be lifted, and that I would immediately feel better... alas not!

I too ended up at the GP, who didn't really understand and gave me pills... I didn't want to mask the problem, I wanted to get it out of my system. Do you have close friends or family you can talk to? Don't keep it in! I hope your GP gives you the help you need and deserve, in whatever form that takes!

It took me quite a while to get used to the situation, and thankfully my friends and family have been a godsend!

It DOES get easier/better... I promise you that... you have done a brilliant thing, and we are here to give you anonymous/virtual support! Please use this forum to vent, talk and we will be there for you! Afterall, we've all been exactly where you are now!

Hi there, and welcome.

Depression is, unfortunately, a byproduct of heavy stress, and just because a problem is alleviated, it doesn't mean your head feels any better, even though the weight of the shoulders may!!!

Congratulations on taking steps to get this sorted; can I just, at the risk of sounding pedantic, point something out, though?

Depression is individual for everyone, and the approach to it also widely differs from person to person. Whilst for some, a talking therapy like counselling may be the answer; for others, some medication may be the key. Some people may need the two, and often do. Medication effectively dampens the extreme emotion that all too often accompanies depression. It may be that persistent, negative patterns of thinking (eg- I'll never be free from debt) are the cause of the depression; finding a sympathetic ear may be the key to a person getting through the tangled thoughts and moving on. However, some people may just be predisposed to depression, and may find it difficult to nail down why they are depressed.

Yes- see the GP; don't be surprised if they suggest a combination of things, ie. exercise, referral to a counsellor, or indeed medication, but either way, you'll feel better, as the above poster has said, by taking steps to sort it out.

I am a staff nurse, and work in a psychiatric hospital. I've had mild depression, and although I've not taken medication (Not needed to), I still get anxieties, particularly about my debts. I really, really get what you're saying, and wish you all the very best.

Mothermercury30

...and, after reading the rules of the forum, maybe I shouldn't have offered medical advice- sorry about that, but the GP will confirm what I've said. The idea is, however, to talk to an expert- they will advise the best course of action.

daddiesrcool

My depression has been based on things around me that has just put me in a low mood After talking to my doctor i have decided to go for counselling and up to just recently just come off medication, I have started looking at the things that make me low and starting to change my ways on the things i say and do and make those changes to put me in a better and more positive mood. I have set myself a mini challenge, My debt at its highest was £5000 (February2011) even though i am on a debt management plan i want to set this next year by trying to clear my debt instead of the three years that was suggested, i want to continue with my DMP but by Next year (MAY 8 2012) i want to pay my debt off, every day for this next year i will post on my thread
sharing how things have been

JLL

Well done you should be proud that you have 2 major things being sorted in your life. Life can be a big weight on our shoulders at times but look forward to the future it WILL BE happy and bright. Good luck with it all xxx

mandyl

good luck from me who also suffers from depression x

daddiesrcool

I am feeling frustrated, a little today but i am not going to let it get to me i have done a couple of hours extra overtime to my girlfriends annoyance, but i am adament to stick to my ways and overcome. on a good point i have started i have dejunk a little which has made me money already, i have started to sell things on facebook which seems to be working well but no sucess at the moment, and i have booked two table top sales for this saturday and next saturday total things i have sold is £30 of items in one day really happy about this

daddiesrcool

After finishing a 12 hour shift today i fell so bright, and positive about things i have done research to find where the cheapest petrol is 128.9 quite a bargain i think i have sorted my tyre pressure and dejunked my car making it a lot lighter i have sold another £20 pounds worth of stuff today taking my total upto £50 pound in 24 hours better go to sleep now good night all

chevalier

good luck with the DMP and the depression. I hope that the councelling is effective and your gf supportive. Just be aware that sometimes you have to focus on one major change at a time, so don't beat yourself up if the debt busting doesn't go as fast as you would like.

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