Gift?

pruzzie

I came out of a 14 year marriage, husband walked out, left us in debt and I have been paying it back through a debt management plan ever since. I moved house 3 times in one year with my two children and grandmother by myself. I rented and once settled I met a new partner. The house I was renting was offered to me to buy, which I commenced with, my partner did not like the house and suggested I buy another, but this would need a deposit which I did not have, he had just remortgaged his house and had some £30k left which he said he would give me, I resisted at first as I had come through enough and IF the relationship failed he would pursue the money, he agreed he would not pursue the money and a piece of paper was drawn up stating this, but that as I earned more than he did (at the time) I would pay an amount into his account as a 'social fund' so we could have money for weekends etc.

Well the relationship ended and I have not paid into his account for the 'social fund' as we do not socialise any longer.

Where do I stand? I have the piece of paper somewhere in the house which I will find, but if I cant then what.
I purchased my house and it has my name on the deeds.
His money was a gift.

podperson

How long were you with your partner? I guess I would see a difference between paying into a social fund for you both for a large number of years and just doing for a very short period of time. If it was the latter then I know if it was me I would feel like I should be paying at least some of the money back. If the house is in your name then as far as I am aware he won't be able to make a claim on it. Is he currently chasing you for the money?

Pixiechic

So did you pay anything into the social fund?

Do you think that it is right for you to keep £30,000 of someone else's money? His money helped you to purchase your house.

Does he say that it was a gift or is he saying that it was a loan?

jcr16

i personally wouldn't be able to keep the money. i'd want to pay it back or offer to . i would feel very uneasy about accepting it as gift.

i would imagine as the bit of paper wasn't legally written up then it isn't a legally binding contract.

i guess there is somesort of trace that can trace the money came from him. i presume he didn't just hand you 30k cash.

Have u spoken to him and asked what he wants to do. it might be that he wants to do nothing, and then in which case maybe now is the time to get something written up by a solictor. or it maybe a case of yes he would like it repaied at x amount.

pruzzie

I paid £300.00 a month but it didnt stop there, I had already paid some 15k back but I also paid for everything, shopping for his house, holidays, fuel for his two cars, his 4 children etc. The relationship was for 4 years. I no longer earn the amount of money I used to earn and just about keep my head above water. I also have my family to look after.
He hasnt spoken to me for over a month, since he met his new girlfriend whilst we were still engaged and I caught him on Dating sites, he has sent me a text ...twice.

GlasweJen

If you've paid back 15K plus kept him for 4 years and he's not mentioned it then i'd say you were quits really.

mummyplus3

If he's not mentioned it then i'd just get on with your life... You've probably paid back the money and more keeping him for 4 years so try not to worry about it!