Siblings

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Sorry - more of a vent.

I am the youngest in the family, have an older brother and sister, neither has much to do with me - But i do see my brother as he goes to my mums.

My sister lives one street away. If I go to visit her she's extremely rude and generally makes you feel unwelcomed so I no longer visit. However, its annoyed me today, I havent seen my sister in so long, last time we spoke she rang up asking for kids easter money (end of feb!)

She's been up visiting my neighbour (who she works with) and couldnt even be botherd to shout a "hello" over the fence.

I know i shouldnt let her get to me and that its generally not worth getting upset but its soooo annoying when I see people with their siblings getting along etc

She's never liked me since we was kids but gets on brilliant with my brother! She says its because mum and dad spoilt me but I dont see how thats MY fault? (to be fair - they spoilt us all but my sister doesnt see this)

You'd think we was scrabbling teenagers - but she's 36 for gods sake

BitterAndTwisted

We appear to carry our pasts and our past resentments with us like a heavy sack on our backs sometimes, don't we?

Please be assured that all siblings don't love and adore each other all the time. At times the best that can be hoped for with my own is an unarmed truce.

If that bint was my sister I'd be glad that I wasn't involved in her life if she's intent on being that childish and unfriendly. She could be doing you a favour by keeping her distance. I'd tell her where to go the next time she rings up asking for money.

Liam002

I understand siblings don't always get along, but if you care about her and care for you two to become closer, why don't you have a serious talk with her. Tell her how you feel and what you want, and if she is willing to make it work, because you are family.
Good luck!

sjc3

I get on fabulously with my sister, now. Most probably because we live at opposite ends of the country and rarely see each other. I send her messages on facebook, we talk on the phone etc.

Yet when we meet up at family occasions I can spend about 3 hours in her company before I feel suffocated and she gets completely on my nerves. She is not nasty or anything just a bit full on.

Distance makes the heart grow fonder it seems. Be unavailable for a while. Dont answer her calls, especially ones where she just wants cash off you :eek:. See if that improves her

Good luck :cool:

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

hm i dont think the chat will work - I've sat crying in front of her once saying how upset i was and nothing changed.

I havent seen her since before Christmas and only spoke to her once since then - She sent her kids up with our christmas presents and my Birthday card.

I think I'll just have to accept its not going to be the relationship i want.

Mojisola

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

hm i dont think the chat will work - I've sat crying in front of her once saying how upset i was and nothing changed.

I havent seen her since before Christmas and only spoke to her once since then - She sent her kids up with our christmas presents and my Birthday card.

I think I'll just have to accept its not going to be the relationship i want.

Contact with someone who makes you feel like that just isn't good for you. For your own sake, keep your distance and surround yourself with friends who value you.

Poly,put_the_kettle_on

Move on! Not every family is the Waltons- in fact, they're few and far between. It sounds like you share little in common apart from some genetics, so why keep chasing it?

building_with_lego

:spam:Dodgy sig there, LilyChau....

birkee

Four Brothers and four Sisters (old nearly victorian family) five now dead.
Got on well with some, and not with a couple. Only had one serious fall out with one Sister.
You keep a relationship with the ones you CAN get along with, and keep a polite distance with the ones that you don't relate very well with. Family occasions etc.

To be honest, I translated the message as 'you're lonely'. You Sis sounds like someone to avoid. You need to join a club or something.
Lots of people have friends who are more dear to them than blood relatives.

faithcecilia

birkee wrote: »

Four Brothers and four Sisters (old nearly victorian family) five now dead.
Got on well with some, and not with a couple. Only had one serious fall out with one Sister.
You keep a relationship with the ones you CAN get along with, and keep a polite distance with the ones that you don't relate very well with. Family occasions etc.

To be honest, I translated the message as 'you're lonely'. You Sis sounds like someone to avoid. You need to join a club or something.
Lots of people have friends who are more dear to them than blood relatives.

I hope very much you are not my uncle, certainly sounds like my mums family:eek::p


Ultimately, being born children of the same parents doesn't mean you must or even should then be friends. I must confess, as an oldest child, I read your post OP and thought 'typical youngest child':cool: which just sort of confirms that we all carry our childhoods with us, good or bad.

If you don't like your sister, then doen try to be friends with her, and accept maybe she doesn't want to be friends with you. But remember she will be visiting her friend who lives near you, and choose not to be offended.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

sorry - been hanging on another thread and not realised I had more responses to this.

No am not lonely Quite busy with family, work and friends - But it would be nice for my sister be involved - and more importantly for my DD to know her aunt.

I dont have a prooblem with my sister - It appeaars she doesnt like me very much but when questioned she always says "its because mum and dad spoilt you" so its nothing I've actually done. She see's me as "the golden child" - I know she believes I go everything I wanted but she doesnt see that I had to work for things - When I've mentioned this it goes ignored.

Ultimatley - she's my sister. I'm not wanting a best friend, but to be acknowledged surely isnt much to ask?