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Advice needed
sassy_one
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After battling severe clinical depression, a failed marriage and the death of close family I am now left with a painful decision to make.
My father's behaviour whom is in his 60's has been getting worse.
Last year I posted here seeking advice regards possibly he had/has Alzheimer's, however I was left with no choice but to sit tight and see how his behaviour improved.
It all started last year, early part of 2010, where after a visit to his GP he came and saw me as normal and had a good go at me, in front of my wife (I'm re married).
He said loads of things, my wife was even in tears as he made statements about us.
But one thing that stuck in my mind was he said he didn't care about me or my wife, even didn't love me.
I was heartbroken of course but, I wasn't going to fall into depression again and fighted back tears and moved on.
A few days later, he was back to normal and acted like nothing had happened, I went along with it, but have and always will remember the comments he made during that temper outburst he had.
Up until new year, things seemed on a bearable level but since New year that's all changed.
When I see him he barely speaks, to me or my wife, or anyone.
He drinks alcohol daily, and is on anti depressants but I don't believe this is depression as I have been there and he has had it years.
He doesn't want to do anything and now, this week he has completely shut down, he shuts himself away, drinks, sleeps a lot and eats complete rubbish.
He refused to take the bowel cancer screening test he was sent a few months back, even after I pleaded with him and told him the seriousness of it, I advised his GP and he spoke to him but I am told he in so many words it was without success.
He has had blood tests done recently and they have come back all 'clear' and he debated with the GP there must be something wrong.
He is very forgetful.
Today again, he said some very hurtful things to me and I am now close to cutting all ties with him, I feel he has something wrong and I have told him this, only for him to get very angry.
What do I do?
I have sent a letter to his GP advising him of my serious concerns.
My father's behaviour whom is in his 60's has been getting worse.
Last year I posted here seeking advice regards possibly he had/has Alzheimer's, however I was left with no choice but to sit tight and see how his behaviour improved.
It all started last year, early part of 2010, where after a visit to his GP he came and saw me as normal and had a good go at me, in front of my wife (I'm re married).
He said loads of things, my wife was even in tears as he made statements about us.
But one thing that stuck in my mind was he said he didn't care about me or my wife, even didn't love me.
I was heartbroken of course but, I wasn't going to fall into depression again and fighted back tears and moved on.
A few days later, he was back to normal and acted like nothing had happened, I went along with it, but have and always will remember the comments he made during that temper outburst he had.
Up until new year, things seemed on a bearable level but since New year that's all changed.
When I see him he barely speaks, to me or my wife, or anyone.
He drinks alcohol daily, and is on anti depressants but I don't believe this is depression as I have been there and he has had it years.
He doesn't want to do anything and now, this week he has completely shut down, he shuts himself away, drinks, sleeps a lot and eats complete rubbish.
He refused to take the bowel cancer screening test he was sent a few months back, even after I pleaded with him and told him the seriousness of it, I advised his GP and he spoke to him but I am told he in so many words it was without success.
He has had blood tests done recently and they have come back all 'clear' and he debated with the GP there must be something wrong.
He is very forgetful.
Today again, he said some very hurtful things to me and I am now close to cutting all ties with him, I feel he has something wrong and I have told him this, only for him to get very angry.
What do I do?
I have sent a letter to his GP advising him of my serious concerns.
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Also, earlier I said to him after he made another batch of hurtful comments that the day he told me he didn't care about me, was the day a part of our relationship as father and son died, after which he said good and reconfirmed he doesn't care.0
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He's a drinker, don't expect any sensible comments from him. Leave him to get on with his life and if he's rude or makes hurtful comments to you or your wife in your home - show him the door..................
....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)0
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