Temporary council accommodation

EastMidsGal

Thanks everyone for all the information, goodness, it's all so helpful

I know what you are saying Viktory, it makes so much more sense to play the long game I just don't think I have the strength. I had severe post natal depression after my daughter was born and am classed as high risk this time round. I am already suffering from pre natal depression and stress induced psychosis since January when I found out the landlord was selling the house and we would have to move so close to me having my baby that has just grown and become more severe as time has gone on and with each set back.

I spoke to the homelessness officer today and they said because of my history with depression and post natal depression that they're not going to put us into a B&B, that they've already applied for temp accommodation for us but nothing is available but as soon as it does we will be put into there but to keep looking for a private rental in the mean time. This is really good news as it was the idea of a B&B I couldn't face. My daughter and I were put into a refuge for eight months a few years ago when we fled DV and by the time we moved out I was close to breaking point and my daughter is only just now getting over the emotional scars with the help of the family referral service, so I have been scared of putting her back into a situation that is so similar to what was so damaging a few years ago. Sorry, hope that makes sense, I'll be the first to admit my thought processes aren't that calm and rational at the moment.

Before finding out they wouldn't put us in a B&B I thought about taking the crummy private rent just to avoid going into a B&B as I know that right now the stress of that would be too much for me. I want to avoid going back on anti-depressants for as long as possible because of being pregnant and then hoping to breast feed after, probably too much information there! I think private rents for LHA tenants are going to become worse and worse and worse, especially for those in my position with no guarantor.

As I have gone through and been approved for the rent deposit scheme the council are going to provide the first months rent upfront which then means the agents/landlord are paid in advance and I will have to pay it back at so much each month. Then the final months rent as it is in arrears would go towards paying off the rest of the debt to the council and reimbursing me for what I have already paid them. I can see rules being changed to make LHA tenants more attractive to landlords by making it compulsory for the LHA to be paid directly to the landlord, but as the council says it is the tenants responsibility to recoup the money if the landlord is overpaid, it would be a system that could easily be abused by an unscrupulous landlord leaving the tenant out of pocket and still possibly owing money to the council. I think LHA tenants are just going to get more and more hammered between the council relying more and more on private stock and unscrupulous landlords who no one with a choice would rent from.

So in the long run a council property is the safest bet especially as I have had depression for 20 years now, I doubt it is going anywhere soon, and I can't cope with stress at the best of times, let alone the stress and upheaval of moving. I am just feeling emotionally crippled right now. I can't think straight and I don't trust myself to make the best, most sensible decision which is why I asked on here for advice

It's affecting me that I can't set up my baby things even though there is just a few weeks to go. I think I am just going to bite the bullet and accept that I will be here until I ride things out through the courts and get set up for the baby, that at least will cheer me up, if I can unpack all the baby clothes that are already boxed up, then I will be ready and prepared for that at least and if we can move sooner it won't take long to pack up again. I think it was that aswell that made the crummy private rental attractive even though my gut instinct was to say no to it, because I thought if I took it, at least I would be able to prepare and be excited about having this baby, which I really want to be but so far feel unable to because of all the other stress

Christ, I've rambled on there, sorry. I did say I was a mess right now

zoesmummy_2006

Hun where bouts in east midlands are u? Im that area too, derbyshire here xxx

EastMidsGal

I was in the East Mids when I set up this account but have since moved back to my home city of London. I love Derbyshire! I don't have my car anymore but when I did and I first passed my test my daughter would love it if we went for long drives in the Peaks, we went to Matlock and Bakewell etc for daytrips, such happy memories and not far as we were just over the border in Notts.

Now for daytrips we have to brave the London Underground, not nearly as pleasant!

I can relate to your situation so well! My initial fixed term ran out at the beginning of Feb, but spoke to agents in December who said the LL was very happy to continue then at the beginning of January got a phone call from agents asking when they could bring people round to view as LL wanted to sell! And he wanted the house vacant upon possession so we would be asked to leave shortly. A S21 was delivered a month later. I also fear for the upheaval in my daughters life, she has had so much too, we've had to flee DV twice and the last time, a few years ago, all the stress and upheaval resulted in her having so many behavioural issues as she struggled to cope that as I mentioned previously we are only just coming out the other side of now, that the last thing I have wanted to do is go into a B&B, a situation so similar to the one before that caused her so much upset but at least it looks like we can avoid that now

Hope things work out for you

zoesmummy_2006

Derbyshires lovely, sooo pretty, but damn expensive property wise! Cheapest private rent ive found so far is £650 pm for 2 bed house, and they want employed only
Hope it works out for you too, and good luck with your new baby! Im sooo jealous lol, everyone seems to be having babies atm, even my ex despite not paying owt towards the 2 hes got, but thats another story. Let me know how it all works out for you xxx