Early Puberty

dragonflyjen

Hi there,

Just thought I would leave a quick reply to this as I also started my period at 10 yrs old. Must admit I was totally mortified as I started 3-4 years before my older sister and I didn't want anyone to know. The worst thing for me was that I was much bigger than any of the other kids my age (including boys) and got boobs almost overnight at age 10 and so I got badly bullied for it. Something I found it very hard to deal with as once the bullying started it carried on up to the high school. Worst case scenario, so hope it's easier for your daughter.

Take care x

euronorris

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I would have been mortified if i had to sit in my head teachers office at that age to discuss this. I remember being at secondary school and being far too embarrassed to even ask the school nurse for some pads when i got caught short.

I even asked my mum to by me stuff for years until i left home and had to do it myself, i was worried i might bump into someone i knew. Now it just gets done without a second thought.......lol.

I remember once staying over at a friends house and having my period. I was worried in case of an accident so my mum phoned the other's girls mum to give her the heads up, but was also told not to mention it to my friends younger sister as i was too embarrassed.

When using the family bathroom, I would always take any wrappers/evidence back out with me and put them in a bag for the dustbin. I could never leave them in the bathroom bin for my dad or bro to see. Of course i didn't do this for years on end but to start with i did as i was so embarrassed. Silly really looking back now and esp now as on a shelf in my bathroom is some pads and tampons, not obvious but not hiding either and all sorts of builders and people are using our bathroom at the moment. Its part of life but your daughter will probably want it kept private and secret for a while.

Nowadays its amazing what me and my friends talk about.

That's my personal experience anyway.

I think that is why my Mum did that. To show me it was nothing to be emabarrassed about. All women go through it, and also so I had someone to confide in at school.

But....everyone's different, so the OP will have to use her knowledge of her daughter to judge how to approach this one.

Pigpen - I hate Always for the same reason! lol. I use an own brand here also (similar to Boots).

Mrsspendalot - They didn't do that at my school. But, what they did do, in the last year, was invite someone in to come and talk with us about it all. There was a woman for us girls and a guy for the boys.

andrealm

mrsspendalot wrote: »

My DD is 10 nearly 11 in Year 6 and I have to admit we've not had 'the talk' yet. When I was at school there was an evening where mums and girls went in and had 'the talk' together and we came away with a freebie pack of towels and things for when it first happened so we were prepared. I've kind of been waiting for that to happen .... but now I'm wondering if they just don't do that anymore?!! I know they have at another school from a friend, and they had their talk last year. I didn't start until I was 13/14 .... but I know that might not be the case for my DD. I'm going to take a look at the links for the books and give it some thought. She's not a very mature girl for her age in a lot of ways, so I don't want to frighten her!

She'll be a lot more frightened if she starts before you have "the talk"!
Lots of girls start at 10 or 11, especially these days.

I wouldn't rely on waiting until school does it, that's if they do it at all. Not sure if all schools do it anyway,mine didn't.

My mum wasn't at all open about talking about sex, but she made a point of telling me about periods before I started, as she had started hers before anyone explained to her and was terrified, as she didn't know what was happening to her.

Threebabes

Jussy wrote: »

Got this for my daughter when she was a similar age

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Care-Keeping-You-American-Library/dp/1562476661/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1300196917&sr=8-1

It has been wonderful - very age appropriate.

Hope your daughter has been OK at school today.

Jx

Im going to order this book for my dd who is 10 (11 in April).

Thanks

webitha

my DD1 is nearly 10 and starting with the mood swings
luckily we dont need the talk as i have always been very open and honest so she knows whats to come

i shall keep chocolate in the fridge and iceream on standby lol

Violetta_2

Poor thing, I remember how awful it was when I first started, there is info on the bodyform website (only kind that don't irritate me). AND more importantly you can order free samples.
Looking at the website, some of the info is aimed more at adult's, but it might give you some useful advice.

ETA this website looks informative too

Fizzpop

Thanks for the books have ordered them for my daughter even though we've had the talk etc and she knows where everything is kept,
My daughter is 11 so im on the look out for her as i was 10 when i started, it was really funny though as i started the day before we had the talk at school, im kind of glad there is more advice out there for them now as all my mum did was tell me where the pads were kept and her talk consisted of loads and loads of now you have your period superstitions!!

stormCat99

mrsspendalot wrote: »

My DD is 10 nearly 11 in Year 6 and I have to admit we've not had 'the talk' yet.

I have to say I'm pretty shocked at this. Imagine how distressing, upsetting and confusing it will be for her if she starts and nobody has explained to her? :mad:

My parents explained all the ins and outs to me when I was much younger, around 6 or 7 so it was never a 'secret' issue or anything. I remember still having a bit of a shock when I started though, I can't imagine what I'd have thought if no one told me what was going on, I probably would have thought I was seriously ill.

Please, explain things to them asap before it is too late, they will be grateful for it.

Kaz2904

My DD's 9 and I bought some of the pads that had the little tins free with them a while back. I got one for me and one for her and then explained to her about what happens. I said it would probably be a while before she needed them and then showed her where the pads are kept. So hopefully she's all set up ready for when it happens

ailuro2

My DD has taken it in her stride, I always ask if she has her "tin" with her, and suggest ways that she can keep it handy so she doesn't need to go get it out of her schoolbag, so the inner pocket of her coat, for example, is a good place to keep it.. I remind her to replenish it too, and make sure there's always lots of towels in the cupboard in the bathroom...

one thing DD did find odd was the towels seemed too wide for her pants, she now uses Always simply fits for during the day and Always night time ones for night time - I was amazed at how heavy she seems to be, has had quite a few accidents, though thankfully not at school..:eek:

I think by talking to her and always being open with her without grossing her out too much she sees it as just something else that happens and isn't too fussed by it.

She shouted me through to the bathroom the other day to annouce she now has hairs under her arms... 7 of them!:)

I think having a bin in the bathroom is important too - that way she can dispose of stuff without leaving the bathroom, iyswim, it's something I never had as a young girl, and it just added to the stress / annoyance factor. ( Mum also used to keep the ladies things in a drawer in her bedroom - most embarassing when it was something that wasn't talked about openly)