Just want to rant.....sorry

xangeleyes

I'm just in a foul mood.

My husband is on a bricklaying course and he loves it, but he's had real bad luck with injuries - he's accident prone.
Anyway, over a month ago he hurt his ankle - an ankle he's constantly hurting with the slightest of movements and so he's not been able to go into the workshop as he has to walk there and back (an hours walk each way) plus stand on his feet all day.

Now, not the tutor, but the person who is running it is constantly making snide remarks and is giving the impression that he doesn't believe my husband.

I understand that some people don't turn up to courses and make up excuses etc, but you can't taint everyone with the same brush (or however the saying goes).

My husband didn't go to the doctors because it's an injury he's had before and all they give him is ibuprofen and rest it.
Anyway, it wasn't getting any better so we were worried he'd damaged it more than we'd first thought, so we booked the docs for the 4th March.
The usual happened, rest and take ibuprofen.....jeese!

Anyway, this course boss or whatever, has been messaging my mobile as a way to contact my husband as his mobile has broken. He's told me that for someone claiming to have a bad ankle, should perhaps not be caught walking outside on it.......basically I was on a course on Monday 7th and my husband HAD to hobble to take the kids to school, however I PAID for a childminder out of my own money to pick up the kids until I got back into Huddersfield, as hubby is in too much pain to walk around on it. So whoever apparantly saw him would have seen my hubby walking a snail pace and in pain. NO ONE on that course lives near us anyway, so we are thinking that he was saying this in a hope that hubby has been walking around - he hasn't, it just happens to be on that damned day. So I CAN see how he would think hubby was lying, if he was walking on it, but what's he meant to do?? He's got kids to care for when I can't!

The course boss has asked for a sicknote now, which thankfully we already requested one and we've got it, so that will be nice to show him

I know I'm letting this get to me, and it's stupid and I need to be positive etc, but I hate that he's assuming my husbands lieing about this. He's not come out and said that, but it's the way he comes out with things.

He's texted my mobile to tell Daron that HE has knocked down his WALL that he was working on.....but there was no need to do that, it wasn't being used and wasn't in the way and all people have their own little plots.

AND he phoned up today to say that my husband wasn't communicating with him HOWEVER, first he gave my husband the WRONG number, and when he got the correct number, my husband was ringing him only to be told 'I've not got time for this' and hang up on him!
And he's accussing MY HUSBAND of not communicating!!!

No need to reply.

I CAN understand the course bosses point, being that he probably has many doing this and making excuses of why they've not turnt up, but he's never given my husband the chance. He's ALWAYS negative towards him and complaining, although my husbands work was above the average it was meant to be and he passed with flying colours.

My husband went out to find this course, he wanted this course and he loves doing his course, but when someone is like this towards you it gets you a bit down.

Despite being told by the doctor that he is NOT FIT TO WORK, he is going in on Monday with sick note and staying in.
He's worried of course, incase he fails. And he HATES having this time off, but in the long run he'll make his foot worse!

I'm probably over reacting and I need to take my daily dose of 'Chill Pill'

Jennikay

Take a look at your sig!

Hope it all gets resolved.

xangeleyes

Jennikay wrote: »

Take a look at your sig!

Hope it all gets resolved.

Hahaha I know. Calm....Breathe.....happy thoughts

I should probably point out I KNOW why I'm over-reacting to this......I have Anti-D's and I ran out so I've not had any for a couple of days.....oops

Jennikay

Rachel_murray wrote: »

Hahaha I know. Calm....Breathe.....happy thoughts

I should probably point out I KNOW why I'm over-reacting to this......I have Anti-D's and I ran out so I've not had any for a couple of days.....oops

That's never good, and on a Friday too get yourself over to your docs on Monday!

Sambucus_Nigra

If he is paying for the course, he is a customer and needs to tell this person to zip it.

xangeleyes

He's not paying for the course. Unfortunatly we are unemployed although we've ALWAYS worked hard in our lives and becuase he's unemployed, it MUST mean he's a lay-about?????? Not fair and NOT the case
We've had it hard but I've had enough with being unemployed and in the process of starting a business . And hubby went out and saught after a course he could do to better himself, he wasn't forced to do it like some are when they're unemployed.

Work hard for things in life.

I understand that some people are PUT on courses by parents, work and/or things like the jobcentre, so I can appreciate the amount of excuses this man may get when someone has not turnt up to the course (because perhaps they're acting out and refusing - if they're forced to do it then their heart is not in it which will lead to absences and/or lack of enthusiasm), but again, NOT EVERYONE IS LYING AND MAKING EXCUSES

Anyway, I'm a bit better, I'm just going to try and think positive and realise that if he's as miserable as everyone says he is, then I actually feel sorry for the man.

Hobo17

How much longer is there to go on the course? Sounds like a written complaint about the tutor is in order but may be best to wait until your husband has passed and got his certificates. Just keep documenting everything in the meantime and note down dates, times, witnesses and an objective account of what occurred.

trumpton

When he finishes the course he should make a written complaint to the college director. Is it a private course or at a gov funded college? They often have feedback forms to complete at the end. There is no excuse for the guy's attitude.

xangeleyes

It's a course at a college so I THINK anyone can apply for it, it's just that my husband went through the jobcentre for them to help him find a course.

This will be noted and a complaint sent, but as most have said, wait until AFTER the course lol, don't want exam applications going 'missing'