This was ranted at me last week.."Its ok for you, you don't have a mortgage"

julieq

Self obsessed or what?

Apart from rampant entitlement issues, you need anger management courses Fox. Why not sort this out inside your own family instead of spraying a private argument all over the internet, and then trying to make a spurious generalised point about debt to justify what you're doing.

nikki1520

Hi Fox

I get much the same in that people assume I'm minted, when I'm really not, I'm just careful with my money, so I do occasionallly treat myself. If you're sister chooses to live a champagne lifestyle on a prosecco budget, then she really has no right to criticise you if you've chosen to go down the not settled down, no kids, easy life route.

However, if she does have a busy life, I can see why she might hop on the defensive when you criticise the amount of time she spends doing stuff for mum. Especially if you live nearer, work less hours etc, etc.

You don't say why your mum needs help - has this always been the case? If not, it may not be that she doesn't want to help, but that she struggles with seeing her mum differently than she used to - had this with my brother when my mum had cancer - didn't see him for dust until the funeral.

Not criticising at all, and well done you for being there for your mum! Maybe your sister needs a little support too

bendix

Christ almighty. Have I fallen asleep and woken up in the middle of the Oprah Show?

The_Fox_3

julieq wrote: »

Self obsessed or what?

Apart from rampant entitlement issues, you need anger management courses Fox. Why not sort this out inside your own family instead of spraying a private argument all over the internet, and then trying to make a spurious generalised point about debt to justify what you're doing.

Anger issues!

You are the same as Hamish(within minutes):rotfl:
You are the one who has anger issues along with all those that are clinging on by their fingernails trying to shout down any argument that insinuates that this bubble will soon go "POP"

societys_child

Thought I'd stumbled onto mums.net for a minute . .

No, just checked, it's definitely Debate House Prices & the Economy

lisyloo

This is jealousy pure and simple.
I know it's difficult not to take it personally, but you need to recognise it for what it is.
Her frustration is not aimed at you personally, it's her own dis-satisfaction (self-ingflicted) with her own life that is coming out.

Well done for being honest with her.
Try not to worry, she might well think about what you said, although it will hard for her to admit to you that you are right.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

B_Blank wrote: »

Some people care about the care their mother is getting

Yes foxy old boy.....

Their mother.

We couldn't care less about yours.....

And most especially we couldn't care less about how jealous you are of your sister....:rotfl:

Jennifer_Jane

Best to put this on the relationships board. I bet you'll get lots of good advice and ((((hugs))) there.

But, in the meantime ....

Big (((hug))) from me.

ILW

Bet the sister who hasn't got the time and money to help out with mother, suddenly gets very interested when it looks like there might be a bit of inheritance coming up.

bendix

So how's this thread working out for you, Fox? It's almost as embarassing as smeagold's definitive attempt to explain the New World Order. Let's hope the outcome isnt the same this time - he flounced off in a huff and hasnt been seen since.