Turning down an inheritance

Mojisola

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I would not have any direct contact with this solicitor myself. Any monies forthcoming could be issued as a cheque to the OP's solicitor's client account, so they won't even be able to find out her name.

They will know she is connected to the address that the letter was sent to. Unless GobbledyGook is able to cut her ties with this address, someone who wanted to find her will be able to do so.

Mojisola

*Louise* wrote: »

Which is why I have advocated 1) ensuring the sollicitor won't pass on yoru details and 2) Getting your own solicitor (prefereble option). I wouldn't have suggested accepting the inheritance before making sure your children were safe.

They solictor would find you anyway. You must be on an electoral roll somewhere, and after the census this month your new details would be on record anyway

Any individual's information like this will not be available for 100 years.

GobbledyGook

Sorry for my rudeness. Thank you for all the suggestions. I'll speak to a solicitor tomorrow and see what they say.

Mojisola

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Thank you for all the suggestions. I'll speak to a solicitor tomorrow and see what they say.

Good luck. It must have come as a shock to have this come out of the blue. Keep yourself safe.

jackieglasgow

GobbledyGook you don't deserve this, and you certainly don't deserve any further upset. Contact your solicitor tomorrow and ask them to respond on your behalf. Morally you may not want anything to do with this family, but legally your children and you are entitled to that inheritance, take it, and do as you will with it, donate it to the NSPCC or Childline if you don't want your own, and help some other child who may be going through the hell that you did. You absolutely do deserve to be happy with your lovely children. xxx

GobbledyGook

Thank you for your kind replies. Having thought about it a little I'm not sure a public forum where I have posted quite a bit of information in the past after my marriage split was a wise place to put this so I have removed my posts.

I hope this is ok with everyone. I really appreciate the help and support.

BitterAndTwisted

Mojisola wrote: »

They will know she is connected to the address that the letter was sent to. Unless is able to cut her ties with this address, someone who wanted to find her will be able to do so.

The address she is connected to is her dead grandparents'. A letter can be forwarded but people can't do that themselves.




GobbledyGook: no-one ever deserves to suffer such terrible misfortunes as you have. But you had people in your life who cared for you and tried to protect you. The testimony to that care and protection is how you choose to live your life now and how you care and protect your own. The past is a heavy sack we carry on our backs for life but the load can be lightened by the good in our hearts and the purity of the love we feel for those precious to us. You know that because it's true.

RLH33

I don't want to alarm you but have you seen Heir Hunters on BBC1 in the mornings at the moment - they go to massive lengths to find the beneficiaries of wills. These are usually of people who died intestate i.e. without a will, but they also look for other people if asked to by executors etc.

They trawl through loads of publicly held information to find people, and if they already know the former address of your grandparents, which you obviously still have connections with, then it won't take long for them to find you.

If you really, really don't want them to find you then I think doing nothing is not an option. As others have said, ring CAB and ask their advice. Otherwise you could get one of those free half hour meetings with a solicitor to go through all this and get some legal advice as to how you can proceed, whether you can refuse and importantly whether you can refuse on behalf of your children. Once you have some proper advice I am sure that will set your mind at rest and you can get on with your life without this hanging over you.

ps. sorry the thread moved on considerably while I was writing this post, it sounds like you have good reason not to want any contact with these people and that going to a solicitor is a good step, good luck and I hope it all sorts itself out quickly.

Mojisola

Have you thought that the money they left you is actually some kind of apology for what you've gone through?

You still might not want it but jackie's idea of giving it away to a good cause is a way out.

Be prepared to tell the solicitor the full story so that he/she can make sure any legal non-contact orders are adhered to.

londonsurrey

Just a thought - is the possible executor someone who is also not allowed contact with you?