Had my cat PTS 4.2.11

neffy58

Hi,

I had to make the awful and very painful decision to have my beautiful cat Marmaduke pts three weeks ago today, and I'm still feeling dreadful. There hasn't been a day without tears since and I miss him so very much.

How long has it taken others in the same position to get past that teary stage?

What helped you to start feeling better? At the moment, I feel like I'm going to miss him forever and never feel happy again.........

tankgirl1

Oh poor you!

You need to remember that you did the best by Marmaduke - Its part of our job as stewards of those four legged furry things, that we love so much, to let them go when the time is right, and not let them suffer.

When I lost Pooch, I had a huge pooch shaped hole in my heart, and yes it did take time to heal. I spent days and weeks crying, but there does come a day when you can look at picture of your pet, or revisit a memory, and smile. At the time though it felt like my world had been turned upside down, and I had lost my best friend. I know it doesn't mean much now, but time will heal. Everyone reacts differently - just let yourself grieve - cry when you have to cry, and its OK to sit on the kitchen floor sobbing while you clutch his collar - which is what I did quite a few times.

This helped me a lot:

[SIZE=+1]Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.... [/SIZE]

nicter

It does get easier with time but that said 2 years on and I still cry at times over the loss of my furbaby. No other cat could ever fill the gap she left but we have adopted 3 cats since then which has helped somewhat to fill the void. Hugs to you neffy x

dundeedoll_2

Oh sweetheart..................as others have said I don't think there is a particular time - I still get choked thinking about my 16.2 hh Palomino called Champagne............he died in 1979!

I lost my girl on 23.01.2011 and like you still feel 'sobby' as it's still raw and recent.

Good advice from tankgirl and nicter.

There_Goes_Trouble

neffy58 wrote: »

Hi,

How long has it taken others in the same position to get past that teary stage?

This week was the first anniversary of the day I let my dog pass away, I guess I'm teary more than usual this week but it's still a regular thing I'm afraid, usually when I'm driving and have time to think and remember things.

meerkat2007

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I still occasionally cry about a Doberman who had to be pts in 1994, and just 25 days ago, I lost my lovely little dachshund, Oliver, at the age of 14 years 5 months.

There hasn't been a day that's gone by when I haven't cried for Oliver. I still have his beds around the house, and his bowl. I still have him as the wallpaper on my laptop, along with Henry, my other dachshund, who will be 15 in two weeks' time.

It'll be along time before I stop crying for Oliver, but I see it this way - he deserves to be cried for. He was a very special dog.

sazzybum

Grieve for as long as you want to-not for the length of time other people think you should...if that makes sense.

We all grieve in different ways, and for different periods of time.

I lost my Patchy 11 years ago, and even now, if I see a bright star at night- I say 'hello girl, you still watching me'. Might sound daft to some, but they can think what they like.

Hope you feel better soon

Sazzy x

spike7451

I'm so sorry for Marmaduke's passing,it does get easier but the will always be a special pace in your heart & your life for him.Certainly is in Orbit's case.Getting Daisy Fuzzlebug helped immensely for me,she's a rescue cat so in Orbit's passing,she got her place at her forever home.She's not the same as Orbit,who was my first cat &,how can I put this without sounding callous, she'll never fit in the same place as Orbit even tho I love her to bits.

Starliteprism

Really sorry to hear about your cattin. My cat died in 2009 in my arms as I ran into the 24hour vets. We didn't realise how sick he was, until it was too late.

I still randomly burst out into tears and there is some part of my brain that doesn't understand why he is no longer around. It's good to discuss with your friends and family the good times, how your cat felt in your arms, the personality, and just the unconditional love that you had together.

Time does put the illusion of gaps, but just know that there are many other people out there that love their pets as family and feel your pain.

*hugs and cuddles*

Maybe my Salty is playing with your Marmaduke, where ever they are. :-)

neffy58

spike7451 wrote: »

I'm so sorry for Marmaduke's passing,it does get easier but the will always be a special pace in your heart & your life for him.Certainly is in Orbit's case.Getting Daisy Fuzzlebug helped immensely for me,she's a rescue cat so in Orbit's passing,she got her place at her forever home.She's not the same as Orbit,who was my first cat &,how can I put this without sounding callous, she'll never fit in the same place as Orbit even tho I love her to bits.

Thank you Spike - no, you don't sound callous, I rather think that no cat will ever be what Marmaduke was to me either, but maybe in time I can give a rescue cat the love and forever home it deserves.
Marmaduke had something about him that was really special.........

I hope that he would recommend me as a mummy and that he would want me to make another pusscat happy.....

I thought I might get through today without tears - silly me!

Thank you so very much to everyone who has replied to me - I really appreciate it - I was feeling so desperate when I made my original post, so you have all helped me feel a bit better xxx

neffy58

"Maybe my Salty is playing with your Marmaduke, where ever they are. :-)" - Starlightprism


Aw, what a lovely thought Starliteprism x

Maybe Pooch, Champagne, Oliver, Patchy, Orbit, and the gang are all there too