dealing with a grieving cat.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

i know this may sound a bit stupid, but my cat is grieving hard (as i did) for my late cat felix (the head of the cats).

she's moping, not eating, growling at the other cat when they are near her, hiding away whenever possible i found her just now in my wardrobe cuddled at the back none of my cats sleep in the wardrobes and never seen fit to.

when she goes out she's woundering his old patrol route, she never did and goes and sits by his burial site in the garden for ages.

she is the now head of the cats in the house as she has been here the now longest appart from felix, they both got on but thought werent really close as they never groomed eachother or slept in a huddle together though did sleep in proximity to eachother.

she's usually a cutchy cat, but now she doesnt want to know anyone, snorts air out of her nose at everyone (its quite funny her snorting noise but at the moment im feeling for her).

she's losing weight now, because of not eating, she wont even be tempted with tuna just looks at you and then walks away.

i'm the only one who can get near her, to actually touch her without her going off running. any advice greatly taken.

DansMum_2

Bless her poor thing....

Animals do grieve, you didnt say how long it'd been since you lost Felix?

I have an old girl who I inherited from my Aunt when she dies, and she grieved terribly for her. Shes changed now but it took her a while as she'd had a whole lifestyle change as well...
I just gave her lots of love, time and space when she needed it...

Do you think a vet visit may be appropriate in case anything else is going on???

supersmith

Awww, poor cat, of course she is grieving. I don't have much practical advice I'm afraid having not been in this situation. I would just say give her time (you know how much cats hate their routine to change, even if it is a much smaller thing than their friend disappearing). Give her as much reassurance as she will let you - and if she doesn't start eating again soon take her to the vet. Hugs to you too on the loss of your cat xx

*miaomiao*

Poor thing. It sounds like it's a good time to take her along to your vet in regards to her not eating. There are some helpful techniques and even medication that your vet can recommend. Keep giving her lots of care and love. Good luck to you all in this sad time!

spike7451

I'm so sorry for your loss.
The is a thread over at Purrs that deals with the issue;

http://www.purrsinourhearts.co.uk/index.php/topic,4929.0.html

Money-saving-gal

So sorry about your cat, you must be feeling very sad. Have you tried Feliway? Vet once told me to try the plug-in when thinking of adopting poorly mum in law's cat - our cat doesn't play nice. We found another home for mil's cat in the end so didn't have to use it. Their web has lots of info http://www.feliway.com/gb/Frequently-Asked-Questions

Good luck

ecsvn

Money-saving-gal wrote: »

So sorry about your cat, you must be feeling very sad. Have you tried Feliway? Vet once told me to try the plug-in when thinking of adopting poorly mum in law's cat - our cat doesn't play nice. We found another home for mil's cat in the end so didn't have to use it. Their web has lots of info http://www.feliway.com/gb/Frequently-Asked-Questions

Good luck

Fantastic product- just what I was going to recomend. Another good one to disscuss with your vet is Zylkene http://www.zylkene.co.uk
I hope she feels happier soon. x

atrixblue.-MFR-.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3051678= this is the that kind of got dedicated to felix, youll get a snipet of an idea of how unique he was.

its been a week or so, i have feliway on allways have its a multicat house hold see, allthough two of them at the moment are just fostered from family and hopefully rehome them as their ready, the one black cat cleopatra has been with us for about a year, she was really timid and had human trust issues and constant licking herself bald problems, its taken me a year for her to trust anyone again ready for rehoming but she can only be rehomed in a quiet enviroment so proving difficult. the other lilly a full tab is right cutchy maddam, only young, has now established a close friendship with cleo they play together and have fun while my resident cat is greiving hard, i managed to coax her a bit of food earlier, she ate most of it but when the other two came looking she darted off. im in a bit of a to and from whether to rehome together to be honest.

if she eats more by tomorrow then all should be well if not then a trip to the vet is in order,

meritaten

yes she is grieving Atrix Tinks also isnt a 'natural' leader whereas Felix was! give her time hun, if she ate tonight then thats a good sign, also, let her find her 'own' place in which to lead from. Tinks isnt like Felix - he was a big cat and very bossy! Tinks is devious - she has had to be - its going to take her a while to understand that she has to keep the foster kits in line - Felix did that! but Tinks may never be a 'boss' cat - you may have to find homes for the other two before Tinks feels like she is the 'boss'.