How to Get Through The Tough Times The Old Style Way.

mardatha

Ahhh I never said anything against green DRINKS did I ?
CC, I spent mine (14th birthday) in Charente but I can't remember eating anything green ...:eek:
If I had to eat Kale to get better I think I'd rather just go now ty. :lipsrseal

kezlou

Em me and my fantasy shopping. Ah if only, instead i shop around, lots , to get some good ingredients.

The best place i found to go was home bargains, they sell lots of expensive foods for dirt cheap.

Last time i was there we got a jar of sun dried tomatoes 69p, olive oil think its 150ml 55p,950ml balsamic vinegar 99p, think its the same price for while balsamic vinegar, green stuffed pimento olives (jar) 65p.

The above lasts a while, so i tend to get them once a month if that. We all like olives and i use the olive juice in stews, sauces etc So its well worth the buy if you use them.

Aldi sells really good parsan cheese for £2 lasta ages and its full of flavour. They also sell applewood cheddar, double gloucester and chives for 99p. Works out cheaper than mature cheddar per kilo :eek:.

HTH

jackieglasgow

drinking absinthe, Mardatha?

mardatha

Ohhhh YESS ! Back in the day, when I could afford it ! :rotfl:

ChocClare

jackieglasgow wrote: »

drinking absinthe, Mardatha?

Ah, but it's good for you :rotfl:Perhaps that's what mar had in Charente - you know what they say, absinthe makes the heart grow fonder...

(Ducks and runs away quickly)

shegar

Thanks to you all for your kind wishes, also thanks to Lora for getting in touch with me........ive been through the mill this lately resulting in a breakdown........
The Dr has changed my tabs so im wheening off the prozac and on to something a wee bit stronger................its a very very long story regarding my hubby having a stroke 2.5 yrs ago, ive been doing all the caring for him 24/7, and also having medical problems myself, I find myself drained physicly and mentally......

Everything is stacked against me in the last few months and im now burnt out..............

Im forever fighting Social Services, trying to get some care help with showering and dressing him in the mornings , finally 2 wks ago they said yes we will provide a carer for me..... so carer was due in at 8 am, no carer until 9.40.am.......when she goes into the bathroom she say"oh I cant shower hubby cos SS havnt done a risk asessment on your bathroom....."...

I could go on.......im now too tired out to hardly look after myself let alone a disabled person who needs constant care as well........
Dr phoned SS and arranged for hubby to go into care until im better, dont know how long that is..........I really miss him not being here , but at the same time its cut my workload to zero..........

I worry about what the future will hold for both of us now, as we are really quite youngish couple.......

Make the most of your lives cos you never know whats around the corner.........its a true saying......that stroke as deverstated


our lives, I feel as though I lost my hubby on that day of the stroke......our lives have changed forever, and I pine for my old husband back............

Im going off line for a week or so give everything a break.......and I will catch up with you all soon.........

jackieglasgow

ChocClare wrote: »

Ah, but it's good for you :rotfl:Perhaps that's what mar had in Charente - you know what they say, absinthe makes the heart grow fonder...

(Ducks and runs away quickly)

:rotfl: very good Clare!

jackieglasgow

Shegar, I hope the rest does you good sweetheart. Is there a carer's group near you, it sounds like the support you would find from such an organisation would do you the world of good. If I was closer, I would come and help you out getting the help you need - I can be a real rottweiler when it's necessary. Take care of yourself. xxx

Pitlanepiglet

Big hugs Shegar, sounds like you've had a horrid time. I'd second the suggestion of contacting a carers group, I'd imagine that there are stroke organisations that can help.

It sounds a little like you need to mourn the loss of your husband as he was and to deal with that loss before you can move on. My uncle was paralysed in his early 30's following a tumour, my aunt fought to care for him and 3 small children, her biggest problem was fighting social services and getting the care that they needed. I don't envy you and send my love to you and to your DH, I hope you are back together soon with the care in place that you need.

ChocClare

Saying lots of prayers for you and DH, shegar, hope you manage to get some good rest.

Sadly, sometimes the only way to get help is when the live-in carer (usually the spouse or daughter) can no longer cope. Individual social workers can actually sometimes be very helpful about this, but it doesn't help that they advise the carer to "withdraw care" - it may be what it's called, but when it's your husband/wife/parents it sounds awful I say to all the (usually) ladies who phone me for advice who are looking after their husband: you are not a nurse (even if they are!), and even if you were, you would not be expected to work 24-hour shifts, 7 days a week. You definitely need a break, if only to come back stronger for your DH.

The stroke association very probably has support groups in your area - if you get a minute, go on here and type in your postcode. They may be able to come out to you if you can't get to them. Take care - we're all rooting for you. :grouphug: