Am i mad/selfish for doing this?

DanielleNic87

Well basically i have decided that i want to go and try on dresses by myself. I don't get married until next June, but obviously want to start looking and trying on.

Just wondered if anyone else has felt this way, or i am just being selfish for not letting anyone else come with me.

Both sets of parents are contributing quite a bit towards this wedding.

Main reason for wanting to this alone is so i can surprise everyone, and the fact that if i invited one person then i would have to invite the other etc.

Danielle

Apricot

I don't think it's selfish but I think I would want one person there with me to give an opinion. A lot of these dress shops will tell you something looks fabulous when it might not - I would rather have someone objective there who can look from all angles and give an honest opinion.

I wouldn't take either of the parents though, I would probably go with a friend if it was me.

LEJC

Its totally up to you who you take with you or if you go alone...the only thing I would suggest you think about is taking a good friend with you whos opinion you trust to tell you exactly how something looks from all angles....some bridal shop assistants can be very full on about what they are selling

I totally understand your view about wanting to keep it a secret until the day but you may find that you want one person to confide in and talk dresses/accessories with

Magicboo

I went to the mojority of dress shops with the same one friend.
As Apricot said, it's useful to have someone you trusts opinion, even if the people in the shop have exquisit taste, your friend will know YOU. It's not selfish not wanting to go with lots of people, although I did keep quiet how many dresses I tried on from my Mother, she thinks she was there for most of them, when in fact she only saw about 20% of the dresses I tried on!!

VICSH

I went wiht my BM's once and it was enough jsut confusing all the opinions so I went on my own on saturday and it ok I agree wiht the above I think taking one person is the best someone who you can trust and will not be too polite but at the same time wont upset you :-)

littlemissnau41

No you're not mad! I want to try dresses on myself too! I normally go clothes shopping on my own so don't see wedding dresses any different. I might take my sis with my once I've shortlisted some just to check what her opinion is as I know she'll tell me the truth and again, like others have said, will know what is me.

Dekazer

When I read the OP I totally empathised - I'd love not to have to take a crowd with me - I find the wedding planning thing a bit excruciating. We went to a wedding fair (me, Fiance and Mum) and I hated every minute!

Having read the replies, however, I now see the sense in taking a very trusted friend. While I normally like shopping alone, I have made some horrible mistakes for lack of a second opinion! And the best purchases I've made (and I include clothes, shoes and glasses) are ones I wouldn't even have picked off the shelf, but a good pal has persuaded me to try...

At the very least, it would be worth taking someone who can take covert photos if needed :rotfl:

picklepick

I took my mum with me. I think, hand on heart, she would have been devastated if I'd gone and not invited her or not told her. I know she's looking forward to my wedding as much as I am and excluding her from something she's dreamt about since I was a little girl would have broken her heart.

How do you think your mum will react OP?

I really valued her opinion too. She's very honest and tells me if she thinks something doesnt suit me.

katini

I'm going to look at dresses on my own. I am not really someone who enjoys shopping and if I am honest I would like to choose it myself rather than have everyone forcing their opinions on me! That said I think if I do decide to take someone then it will be my MOH as I completely trust her opinion.

McKneff

picklepick wrote: »

I took my mum with me. I think, hand on heart, she would have been devastated if I'd gone and not invited her or not told her. I know she's looking forward to my wedding as much as I am and excluding her from something she's dreamt about since I was a little girl would have broken her heart.

How do you think your mum will react OP?

I really valued her opinion too. She's very honest and tells me if she thinks something doesnt suit me.

Im a mum and I hope my daughter thinks the same way as you do.
I have waited 38 years:eek: been through a traumatic relationship with her, didnt happen then, maybe next year with a new partner.
Im fully expecting to burst into tears at the first sight of her in a wedding dress.:)

RainbowDrops

If it's want you want to do, go for it.
Sometimes a bit of advice is handy, but if you're confident enough / know exactly what you want, you don't have to have a second oppinion.

It might be worth having a chat with your mum though. I know mine was delighted to go to a couple of dress shops with me even though I'm actually getting mine made. Dad told me Mum was sad that she didn't get to go dress shopping with my older sister.
But different mums will be more / less interested.

The most valuable person I went to a dress shop though was my friend who is now making my dress, as she could explain what each style did for me & offered an independant point of view.