Unsure what to call thread, a little advice please

Teerah

Earlier today, my (almost) four year son today was talking to me whilst I was drying him after his shower. He said he only had a "wee willy". When I asked him why he said that he told me that a boy in his nursery class had told him this. I asked him to tell me about it and he said that this boy (who is a few months younger) had asked to look at my sons "willy" and had then told him that his willy was very small whereas he had a "big long fat willy". He also told my son that his dad (my dh) only had a teeny weeny willy and my son pinched his finger and thumb together to demonstrate. My son was annoyed about having what he saw as something inferior so I reassured him that his was just a perfect size as it was. I have no other kids but it looks normal size.

Whilst I was initially shocked that this had happened at all, I understand that this "showing" behaviour is a normal part of child development. Is it normal though for children to use penis size as an insult at that age?

My son seemed happy with the reassurance that he was "normal" but he is a sensitive little soul and has mentioned this other child negatively before such as pushing him or making faces, calling names. I just wondered if I should mention it to the teacher or not?

Thanks

delain

I would certainly be speaking to the school yes!

meritaten

yes - mention it to the teacher. I have to wonder why a classmate of his is so fixated on penis size at such a young age.

ab7

Yes agree it has to be raised with the teacher. They would want to know. I am very aware of siblings/cousins/close friends examining bits but not in a nasty but am I the same as you way?
Still remember my boys sitting in the bath discussing who was the most wrinkliest to be like dads...:rotfl:They'd sit in there for hours going blue!

Messrs_Arthur_and_Terry

Tell your son to ask his friend how he measures up with an erection LOL.

Seriously, this is boy stuff and you need to be careful you don't make a federal case out of it. There's going to be moments throughout your kid's life that the same subject is going to rise (pun). Invariably there are those teenage boys who parade themselves as young John Holmes, lost their virginity at eight and all the other rubbish they go on with. The other blokes just have to learn to ignore the nonsense.

The other boy either has older brothers or a father who is sadly lacking in maturity.

Explain to your son the differences between civilised and unrefined families/people.

beedeedee

I agree with Messrs Arthur and Terry on this one. There's no need to go overboard. Your son will have this (and a lot more) said to him whilst he's growing up.........girls do too.
Reiterate the differences between civilised and unrefined families/people and assure him he's perfectly normal and he needs to ignore the nonsense.
Please please avoid making it worse for him by telling the teacher. He'll really think there's something wrong with him.......

ailuro2

I think , while there might not be anything in it, that it is the right thing to do to tell the staff what has gone on - yes, boys will be boys, but using explicit language at a very young age can indicate that all is not well in the other boy's world, so while it might be nothing at all, if he is saying things all the time and other parents have reported it too, they can keep an eye on him a bit more closely and report any problems at an early stage, iyswim.

Amanda65

Oh poor thing. I don't think you need to make a big thing of this (no pun intended :rotfl::rotfl:) but would have a quiet word with the teacher and just say that you thought they should be aware.

I also think now would be a good time to have a chat with your DS about not having to show parts of his body to others just because they ask. Simply having to confidence to say to someone else "No that's silly" and walking away means he won't have to put up with this boys 'curiosity' again.

go_cat

This must have come from the childs father who is obviously feeling slightly inferior in the trouser department :rotfl:

NAR

Looking at the last para of Teerah's post this boy sounds like an apprentice bully and does need observed by his teachers.