Advice please

Minniemavis

Hi all, I'm writing this post as I am
Very concerned about my grandad, he lives in sheltered accommodation with his wife (not my nan). He has numerous health problems, COPD being the main one. He is very frail and always in and out of hospital with his chest. He is a worrier at the best of times also. Ok here goes, the problem is, his wife has 4 sons and one of them got his children taken off him and put into care because he was a convicted drug dealer. He went to jail for a few years and since coming out he has started to go round to my grandads all the time asking for money and just generally makes him feel ill as this man is a bully and has already beaten his own dad up and numerous others.
He is back on the drugs and my grandad is too scared to tell him not to come round anymore as he is very frail and of course scared of this man. I worry for not only my grandad but for the other elderly residents of the accommodation. I am worried he is a danger.
I'm looking for a bit of advise really as to what you lovely lot think and what if any action I should take.
The local housing association owns the flat he is currently in.
Thanks in advance

RedBern

if it is sheltered housing and there's a buzzer system then don't let him in. Perhaps your grandad could ask the warden to keep an eye out for this guy and make sure he doesn't get unauthorised entry to the housing complex?

pors99

Hi depending on where you live it is possible to conatct Someone called community Matron ( assume you know what this is as posted the acronyam COPD). Who would monitor is copd, when through the door could mention that you feel he is a venerable adult and feel that is condition is being exacerbated by his influence. Or contact S/S and see if they could help mention venerable adult status and things should work quickly as we have lots of money recently to try to resolve this.

1) Keep a dairy of incidents and monitor condition.

2) Could try talking to his wife.

Minniemavis

Thanks for your replies, forgot to add that his wife can be very sneaky and doesn't stop her son going round. She let's him in at all hours and he stays there for hours and had all his meals there. His wife is living with blinkers on and as long as he is ok and got what he needs then she doesn't care about my grandad. Yes I know what COPD is. It's chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, it doesn't help he has had a stroke.
Thanks again.

pors99

does he have a community matron?? They help manage chronic illness in the community to stop hospital admissions.

RAS

Hi

Speak to one of the elderly charities, think they now call themselves Age UK about elder abuse. They may be able to advise you on strategies. But if your GD's wife is co-operating with her son and GD is happy to remin in the relationship, there may not be much you can do.

Minniemavis

He has a COPD nurse at his house every day, he is in the quite late stages of the disease. I'm
Not sure about the community matron to be honest.