Reception Meal & Menu Question

chrisb1357

Hi all,

We have our reception booked for our wedding this year and have the wedding menu from the reception to pick 1 item from the starters, mains and deserts. The problem am finding is not everyone is going to like what we pick as the venue has said we cannot give a choice of 3 from each. So everyone will have to have the same starter, mains and desert.

Do you tink this is going to be a problem or should we try and get them to allow us to pick 2 from each.

Another option they have offered is a Cavery with meats and sald and rice. I was going to see if they could do a good old english cavery with roasts and veg.

Has anyone every been to a reception and had a full cavery before

Chris

lilmissking88

Our venue has the same policy, although we went with a 'package deal', and I felt the same as you at the beginning - we pushed for the options but then would have had to pay an extra 30 pounds per head. However, in hindsight, whenever i have been in to weddings in the past, i personally have never had a problem with not having a choice on my meal. I think as long as you go with a universal kind of meal that people would half expect, then there will be no problem. We are also having an evening buffet so that anyone that doesn't like/want what we have for our wedding breakfast can then help themselves at night. Although, our wedding is quite late in the day, so the breakfast and the buffet wont be too far apart.
No matter what you offer, there will still be no pleasing everyone! Someone will moan, its a given.

White_Sapphire

There's certainly no harm in seeing if you can get an English carvery - I'd be very happy with that as a guest!

I've never once been given a choice of what to have at a wedding breakfast and I've never had a problem with it - most couples tend to choose something fairly middle of the road to satisfy the majority of tastes, but as lilmissking rightly says, you can't please everyone!

mistyw1973

Hi there...this is the same for us..OH put his foot down and wouldn't pay the extra for people to have 3 choices as it would have whacked the prices even higher...we have a lovely veggie option, and so far no-one has mentioned the choice of food, and those we thought might have...have just opted for the veggie option !! (we are having roast beef with all the trimmings, so pretty run of the mill)

jellybean08

We've gone for the carvery option. It doesn't even work out much cheaper but means at least there's some choice. It is annoying that you can only choose one option from the menu-our venue is the same. The only thing with the carvery is remember to leave more time if people have to go up and get their own food for that course.

shellsuit

We had a carvery at our wedding last October. We didn't like the menu choices they were giving us so asked what else they could do. We were really pleased when we were told we could have a 2 course carvery for £15 a head! (As opposed to £35 a head for a boring 3 course). We chose profiteroles for dessert.

Everyone filled their boots, said how great the food was, and were all stuffed afterwards!

A carvery is good too because people can have as little as they want or as much as they want. If they don't want something, they don't have to have it and if they're a piggy wig, they can go back for more!

So glad we went for that option now. If you're still in 2 minds, ask them what you'd get if you had a carvery, see if that sways you.

We had turkey, beef, ham, roast pots, mashed pots, stuffing, pigs in blankets, carrots, cauliflower, sprouts, broccolli, yorky puds and gravy! Starving now just thinking about it lol!

emsbet

Our venue let us have a choice of two starters for free but not for the main and desert. We picked a really plain menu, and it is not something H2B and I would pick for ourselves but most of our guests (our families especially! ) are not as adventurous in their tastes as us.
We asked for two starters as we wanted to have a soup option as most people like soup but I wanted something I was less likely to spill down myself so we're having a goat's cheese tart.
Our main is roast chicken and a risotto for the veggies (which I'm having too - as I'm just as likely to spill gravy down myself as soup! ). Our pudding is a strawberry pavlova, which again I think most people like.

Just try to keep it as basic as you can and I think you will be ok.

xx

Bluespirit

I think a carvery would be a lovely option for a wedding. We're fortunate in that our venue lets us pick 2 options for each course (plus a veggie main), but like everyone else has said, just keep it simple, and make sure your guests know they must give you any dietary requirements in advance - not just vegetarian but any food allergies, gluten free requirements etc.

becca0417

A carvery sounds great!

Kittendreich

Our venue let us have a choice, but in advance - it meant a bit of extra admin for me - but meant everyone got a choice of 3 for each course (plus another veggie main). It felt slightly awkward asking everyone, but I prefered that to having to chose a boring meal to try and suit everyone when we really like our grub! Otherwise it was going to cost way more as you have to pay for all the waste as they have to make sure they have enough for everyone to choose the same dish (and chuck away / recycle the rest).

As a guest I'd be happy with any food provided (well almost - I did once starve at a wedding where we only got a cup of tea and a biscuit from early afternoon until midnight! We all thought it would be too rude to leave and find some nosh (the bar didn't have snacks and there was nothing nearby!) so we all ended up in our finery in the chippy on the way home!) - but, back to your question(!), a carvery would be lovely and suits most people.

White_Sapphire

Kittendreich wrote: »

As a guest I'd be happy with any food provided (well almost - I did once starve at a wedding where we only got a cup of tea and a biscuit from early afternoon until midnight! We all thought it would be too rude to leave and find some nosh (the bar didn't have snacks and there was nothing nearby!) so we all ended up in our finery in the chippy on the way home!) - but, back to your question(!), a carvery would be lovely and suits most people.

:eek: Seriously??? How could anyone planning a wedding not give people the opportunity to eat?! That's rude and inconsiderate, not to mention dangerous for some guests - what if someone was diabetic? I'm genuinely shocked at that - I think if I'd been at that wedding I'd have left early anyway - it's miserable being hungry when you know there's no prospect of food soon. I was fed up enough at one wedding where there was nothing until 4.30, following a ceremony at 12 - I'd had nothing since breakfast and we weren't told what time we were going to eat so we all hung round at the bar thinking 'must be soon now' for what felt like forever!!