No Bridesmaids

catz1ct

I am getting married in September this year and so far I don't have any bridesmaids. I don't really have any friends that I can ask (sad I know). Does anyone else think this is a little strange? I'm getting quite worried that people will see me walking down the aisle and then think its strange I don't have any bridesmaids with me.

Ms_Chocaholic

I've never been a bridesmaid before, pick me pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease

On a more serious note, does your partner not have any sisters, nieces etc you could ask

MrsDrink

I won't have any bridesmaids either . But then I'm only having immediate family (parents, siblings, their children, and my granddad) at the ceremony. There won't be a place for bridesmaids at our 'after show' party.

Mrsanders

I was going to do exactly the same thing, have lots of friends but no one really close, I decided to have 2 flower girls which are family members, and my 2 nieces really wanted to be bridesmaids, but I told them we really couldnt afford it, but in the end they nominated themselves anyway and are paying for their own dresses which has been a nightmare but thats a whole different story lol. But originally that was what I wanted to do, I dont think theres anything wrong with it at all, its your day so do whatever you want to do

sweetilemon

Do you have any sisters? if not i really dont think its strange...if you do it depends how close you are. I used to have a couple of really close friends but as years went on we are still friends but no where near as close. i hope they are not offended about me not asking them but at the same time if your not super close then why bother. you can loads of friends but not any best friends its comman dont worry. i personally dont think its weird.

White_Sapphire

I think if I were in your situation I would rather have no bridesmaids than cast around desparately for someone to stand next to me whether or not I am emotionally close to them, just because bridesmaids are 'expected'.

Your wedding should reflect you - if you don't have a very close female friend (for whatever reason) then you don't 'have' to have a bridesmaid. Better that then look back at your wedding photos in ten years' time trying to remember the name of that girl who was your husband's 2nd cousin's half-sister who you made bridesmaid because you thought you had to have someone, ANYone, to walk down the aisle behind/in front of you. OK, so that's a bit of an exaggeration but you see my point!

I'm bucking the trend a little, by not making my sister bridesmaid. I love her to bits but we don't have that kind of relationship where I really want her to be my bridesmaid, or where she would really want to be! It would just be 'for show' because it was what people would expect, and would therefore be a hollow gesture. It's an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid, which I think should only be bestowed on very close friends, not every female member of both families under the age of 30 or 35!

Magicboo

White_Sapphire wrote: »

I'm bucking the trend a little, by not making my sister bridesmaid. I love her to bits but we don't have that kind of relationship where I really want her to be my bridesmaid, or where she would really want to be! It would just be 'for show' because it was what people would expect, and would therefore be a hollow gesture. It's an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid, which I think should only be bestowed on very close friends, not every female member of both families under the age of 30 or 35!

Wish I'd be brave enough to do that!
I have 3 BM's, 2 close friends and my sis. The phone call asking her to be a BM ended with her putting the phone down on me, and every time I do something with the other 2 BMs to do with the wedding, I get a cold shoulder if my sis finds out and a guilt trip from my Ma for not involving the sister!
Catz-do what YOU want to do, if you are happy, then that is all that matters-just think, you won't have to share the limelight as you walk down the aisle to your H2b!;)

shellsuit

I had my daughter as my brdiesmaid, but if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't have bothered with one!

Seriously, it doesn't matter. So long as you and your fiance turn up, that's all people will be expecting! xx

catz1ct

Thank you everyone. Its still a wee while until the big day so times may change but I will try not to worry about it. I'm an only child so have no brothers or sisters and my h2b just has a brother.

I may ask one of my friends I havent seen in a while and maybe the best mans wife, not sure.

celyn90

MrsDrink wrote: »

I won't have any bridesmaids either . But then I'm only having immediate family (parents, siblings, their children, and my granddad) at the ceremony. There won't be a place for bridesmaids at our 'after show' party.

same with us - no bridesmaids for the same reason.

ellay864

My stepdaughter will be my BM but otherwise I wouldn't have one. Last wedding I went to my friend didnt have any - her 4 daughters were all there but weren't bridesmaids