Unmarried Rights

justme111

When I was complaining I paid it all to my ex he said it short " Wanna swap?" and I see his point. I don't see why the woman would be entitled to have her cake ( children) and eat it ( childcare subsidised by an ex). Ah well, it is subsidised anyway with CS.

Re- an accident - what if the one was tired after a night shift so could not avoid an avoidable accident?
What if the one moved away from parent's town to have higher paid job - the one would not need to drive to parental house otherwise.

Somehow people often conveniently forget earning shitloads of money comes at a price - studies while others earning money and party with it, missing on time with children, parental investment paying for private school , overtime, stress, burden of responsibility , no time my a book/ bath/ swimming lesson/yap to a friend/ sleep etc.

LydiaJ

You have a point with the "wanna swap" thing. He and I didn't see it that way. He certainly wouldn't have swapped his freedom to be out and about having a life and a full time career and the ability to travel, for my life of being tied down with the children. And no, I wouldn't have swapped either. But we dealt with the money as a separate issue from that.

Anyway, you and I clearly see things differently, but that's OK. We don't all need to agree about everything. I do agree that people do often forget that we are all responsible for our choices. Still, however wisely you choose, sometimes life just throws you a curve-ball anyway.

Please at least believe me that his accident really wasn't in any meaningful way the result of his choices. The result of other people's choices, yes, but not his. He wasn't overtired. Nothing he could have done would have prevented that accident other than not being on that road that evening. His parents live in a small village which is in a different part of the country from the place he grew up, so it was because of their choice to move that he had to drive there to see them, not his. He was on the road between their village and the nearest town - even if he'd lived next door to them he'd have had to drive along that road often, at least if he ever wanted to do anything other than visit a pub, a couple of small shops or a church. He was a good driver in a well-maintained car, travelling within the speed limit, but the other driver was on the wrong side of the road and it wasn't possible for him to avoid the collision. There's a reason why she was on his side of the road, and that was somebody's choice, but not his. The only choice that he made that's at all relevant is that he chose to leave me, and for that reason I wasn't in the car with him, and therefore I'm still alive.

justme111

Hello Lydia
Thank you for not getting crossed with me as I have a feeling many people would.

AD9898_2

I can whole heartedly not recommend marriage, it's too restrictive in almost every way and most people I know who've been together for a long time are miserable as sin.

Pay as you go, much better option

justme111

AD9898 wrote: »

Pay as you go, much better option

The comphy feeling you have unlimited minutes is worth the plan

markharding557

I disagree with spousal maintenance it should be a non resident parents place to pay for their children but i see no reason why they should have to pay for an ex as well,they are big enough to get their own money.
Spousal maintenance is part and parcel of this biased system which is designed to screw nrp's
Anyone who marries these days must be mad