Depressed, depressed and should I be?

neveranymoney

Have already posted about my situation, but in case you haven't read it, here goes the long version!;)
My mother is moving to France in January, (all on her own, with no job to go to and unable to speak much french!) I'm her only child and have offered to buy her house for my expanded family. The house in question is far better than our own, we're going to buy it at a reduced rate and it is closer to my inlaws. However, It is the other side of town from our present house, I'll have to change my daughter's school and she is a quiet wee thing, I'll be leaving all my old pals and routine behind and I don't know anybody overthere! i know my daughter will make new friends, as will I, (I hope!) my oh can't wait, but I feel poop!
We'll be taking on a massive mortgage, but it's comparable with our outgoings on loans, credit cards etc at the moment, so why do I feel so jitterery? A family friend heard we were thinking of selling up and have offered us market value for the house, so I guess I should count myself damn well lucky that I don't have to have to have every eejit in looking the house up and down and all the signs are roaring 'go for it you moron!' but I'm still sad. Have already seen solicitor and the ball is well and truely rolling but I think I need reassurance and possibly therapy over my errant, (and dare I say it, menopausal mother!):D
PRO'S
Larger house for children
good garden
3 bathrooms (well, toilets!) handy for potty training baba
quiet street. We are continually plagued by 'bad boys' at the mo
flat driveway
we'll never get the opportunity to buy as good a house again
present house is a wreck, but in 'good area!' Ha blooming ha!
CON'S
Making DD go to new school
I don't know anyone
have to walk 3 miles to local primary school everyday
leaving our comfortable know everyone life behind:rotfl:
accepting my mum is really going

roswell

it may be the other side of town but surely friends will be able to visit and just the same you can visit them ?? if they are true friends they will be worth the shoft trip, if they arent worth it you will find they dont come visit..

Could be a blessing

Roma_3

Your mother is brave!! Try to persuade her to take a quick course in French!! Wish her all the very best!! At least you can have hols in France!! (Another thing to add to your "con" list!
Think we all panic to some extent when we move to a different area but sure your little one will soon make friends and maybe try (for her sake and yours) to travel to see old friends as much as possible.
Wishing you all the very best!!! Could be the best move you have ever made!

Ems*Honie

we've just moved areas and it is really scary, but it soon became home. Good luck xx

youngie

your mum has her own life to lead be happy for her she is living life to the full.You say you are only moving to the other side of town are there no buses back across town so you can visit mates! I take it you don't drive? a walk to school each day think of the health benefits while walking start chats with other mums make new friends.
Moving home is stressful try to concentrate on the positives, you can always look forward to the go to france for £1 offers that appear in the papers so you can visit mum,and if things are tight just keep reading this site to save money so you can afford to visit mum sometimes and dont forget to make sure you invite her to visit .you dont just assume she will, some people like a proper invite if they are going to stay a while yes even mums

Bossyboots

It is natural to feel stressful over these things. You have young children so will meet lots of other mums and children are adaptable.

I was sad when we left our last house. It was the first house we had when we married and had our son. I had friends there who were literally on the doorstep but it simply wasn't big enough for a growing family. I kept hoping a house in the street would come on the market while we were looking but it wasn't to be (thank goodness) and we had to move across town. I went through loads of ups and downs, even being upset one night because I didn't want to leave our bedroom wallpaper behind!

It is a big undertaking to move house anyway but you do need to concentrate on the positives. One of which is the fact that the way your houses are being sold, is keeping thousands of pounds out of the pockets of estate agents.

neveranymoney

Thanks for all your replies and advice! Feeling more positive this evening - feel the fear and do it anyway! Friends will of course visit and it's so good to know others have been through the same thing. Suppose I better start packing!