Need some suggestions on getting a social life

nomuny

Messrs_Arthur_and_Terry wrote: »

Friendship doesn't come with a contract. Of course friends have "let me down", they are different people to you, with different genes, different priorities, different everything..... that's what makes them interesting; vive la diff!rence.

You are different, so you can be interesting to other potential friends. The basic rules apply when makiing and cultivating friendships; be disarming, don't whine, don't be judgemental, don't offer advice unless solicited to do so, don't preach, smile and laugh (and mean it), don't brag, don't self deprecate, don't make overt displays of disapproval.... you know, all that stuff you had to learn to catch a mate, except you have to keep it up with friends.....:D.

Yes this is just the problem I try to be a good friend and get walked all over or I have to listen to the friend doing one or a few of the above!

jtk174

One small comment I would make as a result of my own experience, is that when you have the opportunity to get out, do it. Don't get hung up on whether its not your scene, you are too tired etc.

Since my daughter went off to Uni and my wife decided to divorce me, I have probably been out more and done different things than when I was married.

I have a couple of friends who are 10 and 15 years younger than me and I have had some great times. They usually tell people they are out with their Dad! But as a result if I have the opportunity to go out with them, I take it.
Also started to go to the cinema ( sometimes they have deals like crazy tuesdays when you can go for half price ). Have seen a few good movies and of course a few stinkers. But I also have something else to talk about to my daughter and friends.

There have been many times in the past, I had the opportunity to go out and didn't. As a result, people stopped asking!

I recently met up with a guy I went to school with 35 years ago and I started to email some people I used to work with.
You have to start somewhere and getting out of the house once in a while, having some / any interaction with people is key.

I guess you have started that already, hence all the replies:)