Does you husband still go out with his mates?

paddedjohn

tara747 wrote: »

Was he married?

yes he was happily married, the reason he went to the park when he was skint was because he didnt want his wife to think he was giving up his night out, if he stayed in once then she would start to expect him to stay in more.

gjs6385

As we live in the middle of nowhere I also drop him off and pick him up if he fancies a drink (and this is about an hours drive each way too). I am glad he has friends and a chance to catch up with them.

If things don't work out with you and your husband I'll marry you :-) lol x

Gingham_Ribbon

paddedjohn wrote: »

yes he was happily married, the reason he went to the park when he was skint was because he didnt want his wife to think he was giving up his night out, if he stayed in once then she would start to expect him to stay in more.

:eek::eek:Poor fellah. I'd have been out in the peeing down rain rather than succumb to that.

Why is it that some women find this an acceptable way to treat their partners?

SugarSpun

paddedjohn wrote: »

yes he was happily married, the reason he went to the park when he was skint was because he didnt want his wife to think he was giving up his night out, if he stayed in once then she would start to expect him to stay in more.

That's awful, I think if I stayed in on a night I'd normally be out DH would do his best to make it fun enough that I'd do it more often - but I firmly believe that having outside friends and interests and things we do without the other makes us a stronger couple.

LJM

occasionally my oh will go over to his mates house but they dont go out

PolishBigSpender

Go out with your friends when he's out with his mates and have a good time as well!

paddedjohn

SugarSpun wrote: »

That's awful, I think if I stayed in on a night I'd normally be out DH would do his best to make it fun enough that I'd do it more often - but I firmly believe that having outside friends and interests and things we do without the other makes us a stronger couple.

THERE WAS NOTHING AWFUL ABOUT IT, INFACT BECAUSE THEY WORKED TOGETHER IN THEIR SHOP DAY IN DAY OUT, THE BREAK DONE THEM GOOD. IT MUST HAVE BECAUSE THEY WERE MARRIED FOR ABOUT 40YRS (both dead now)

i myself am quite partial to the odd pint or four and my wife happily waves me off to the pub whenever i feel like it. that said i would put my marriage and work before a night out.

tara747

paddedjohn wrote: »

yes he was happily married, the reason he went to the park when he was skint was because he didnt want his wife to think he was giving up his night out, if he stayed in once then she would start to expect him to stay in more.

:rotfl: I suspected as much! Poor man.

Lunar_Eclipse

Mine doesn't, but I have plenty of friends whose husbands do, also on a Friday. Several of the wives have taken to getting together on the same evening so that they're socialising too.

We have a 'rule' that Fridays are date nights (usually at home but consciously spent together) so we wouldn't make plans with friends on a Friday, without consulting the other person. Mondays-Thursdays are different, but the weekend is typically considered family time in our house.

If you're not happy with the situation, I suggest discussing a different night (Thursdays are good) and/or getting your own group together on a Friday night so that you're doing something social and positive whilst he's out.

Fang_3

dandy-candy wrote: »

I make a point of seeing my friends during the day before he gets home (we're all mums). A couple of times when I stayed chatting and forgot the time he would start ringing me wanting me home. When you say about me taking him out, I said already that it only happens when I instigate it. If you mean paying for him, I always offer to tho usually he wants to pay.

So it's acceptable for you to see your friends during your free time? But your husband has to spend all day at work and then not see his friends at all? Wow.