Invitation wording help pls

brissney

Hi


I'm having a bit of a dilemma regarding the invites.


I know traditionally the invites are worded as being from the brides parents, inviting the guests to their daughters wedding but what to do when it's a lot more complicated than that?


My dad is paying for the majority of the wedding (he and my mum are separated and she lives with her partner), venue, registrar, photographer, flowers & food.


BUT other people have given some contributions to it aswell:


My mum is paying for my dress and the bridal party dresses (about £1000)



MIL is paying for the band (about £1000)



FIL gave us £1000 towards the wedding just before he passed away in December


SO, how do I word my invites?? From my dad, but what about everyone else? From me and OH, but what about my dad?
It's a nightmare. I don't want to upset anyone but am really stuck as the best way to word it.


Thanks, Laura

sammr85

We decided to go with the fairest option which is

Together with their parents
Miss sammr85
and
Mr sammr85
request the honour of your presence at their marriage

etc. etc.

HTH

Charliezoo

We've decided to go the modern route and go for this - Mr XXX XXX & Miss XXX XXX request the pleasure of your company at their wedding.

I didn't feel particularly comfortable with my parents' names being on the invites. I felt it was old-fashioned, like my parents had organised the wedding which they hadn't athough they did contribute financially.

I asked my parents if this was ok and they were more than happy.

zcrat41

Personally I'd stick with traditional and formal but make sure the other contributors were mentioned in the thank you section of the speeches.

I think people are awar now that most weddings have lots of contributors but I like the old fashioned significance of ending my time (symbollically of course) with my family and beginning a new family of our own.

Maybe have a chat with your Dad and see what he thinks as he's given the biggest impact?

Good luck

ZC

smiler247

Hello,
I posted a message yesterday with a very similar problem! I am thinking of putting the parents of .... and ..... request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children.
That way, no names are mentioned, eg mr and mrs blah blah (so this way includes step parents / partners under the same umbrella!).
We dont really want to say together with their parents or that we ourselves are inviting because its the people who have contributed to the wedding that are doing the inviting if that makes sense. We are putting the RSVPs to us as thats another problem, who to send them back to! lol.
Hope we both get it sorted as it is a difficult dilemma!
Good luck,
Laura

Sammy85_2

I would go with

" Together with their parents, X and Y request the honour of your presence at their wedding" or something along those lines.

You can always make it clear how much their contributions mean to you during the speeches.

x

laura2481

We went with: 'XXX and XXX are tying the knot! We would like you to join us for our wedding at xxxx'

but then we paid most and both sets of our parents put in an equal amount. Besides which- I've done all the planning