Hit a wall. No way forward :-/

SimIsOnTheUp

rhubarbarella wrote: »

Hi there,

I don't really have much I can offer in terms of actual practical advice, we're in a right old mess ourselves.
I just wanted to say I think you are incredibly brave that you are confronting your problems.

I recall that a friend from years gone by used to work as a tenancy support worker, her job was assisting social housing tenants who had other issues, eg mental health, learning difficulties, drug or alcohol problems etc. She used to meet people at their home and help them go through things, I wonder if maybe your local area has such workers? Maybe you could ask your housing association, or ask at the CAB if there are such workers in your area?

Sorry I cannot offer more help.

I wish you all the best.

Hiya Rhubarbarella,

Thank You. Sorry to read about your situation on your other thread. I think you are both more than brave yourselves!

Spot on advice of yours regarding a tenancy support worker. I've been too proud until now, which was ridiculous. I need help to stay sober, and to stave off the black dog, so later this morning I'm going to phone up my HA and ask for some support.

Cheers, and all the best to you too,

Sim x

rhubarbarella

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

Hiya Rhubarbarella,

Thank You. Sorry to read about your situation on your other thread. I think you are both more than brave yourselves!

Spot on advice of yours regarding a tenancy support worker. I've been too proud until now, which was ridiculous. I need help to stay sober, and to stave off the black dog, so later this morning I'm going to phone up my HA and ask for some support.

Cheers, and all the best to you too,

Sim x

Thakns for that.
See, its gone 3am and I am still up. can't sleep.
I don't know if this will be of help, but a relative of my OH was an alcoholic or many years. He was in a seriously bad way. If you met him a decade ago you might be forgiven for thinking there was no hope.
He has been clean or sober or whatever the correct term is now for several years. He looks good, healthy. His hair has grown back, he ha a glow in his cheeks. He has his sense of humour.
He also has a new wife (i say new, they've been married about 2 years now), a job, a home...
What I am trying to say is, you can come back from this.
The fact that you have aknoweldged the problem and are facing it is huge, surely one of the hardest steps.
I think I may be making very little sense, as despite the lack of sleep I am shattered. So I hope this actually does make some sense.

Keep strong. The people on here have been amazing.
Please do keep us updated as to how you go on. you CAN get through this I am sure.

elantan

Ahh the black dog .. i know it very well ... i live with a husband that has a black dog constantly in his life ... only he has called it his cloud ... it can be so debilitating and drinking goes hand in hand with that (my husband is also an alcoholic) there are some really helpful books out there that help deal with the black dog ... i know my husband and myself have been working together with it and slowly he is making progress

whilst i am not going to put down the AA (they certainly help alot of people) for my husband he chose to go down the counselling route ... alcohol counselling which is provided by our local council ... he seems to think that has helped him

want to wish you luck and let you know you arnt alone ... many here will support you in more ways than you can ever dream of

all the best

Marru

Sim, HERE are some support groups you might want to consider.

I have "known" you a quite a long time now and for me it seems that you are going in circles. You do really well for awhile start getting organised and then hit the self sabotage button again and end up in square one.

Do you have anybody at all that you can trust? Anybody that you could forward all your money situation to look after and who would then give you an "allowance" for your daily needs, who you could authorise to deal with CCCS and other authorities and allocate your remaining income accordingly where it mostly need to be paid to? Just temporarily until you can get the drinking in control and also get your health sorted.

I know you have your pride and I know it is difficult to ask for help (been there, done that and still doing it) but you have tried by yourself for so long and nothing has changed. Please find someone who can take your hand and be there to sort it all out and stop you access to cash that needs to be used for other things than drink.

verystupidwithmoney

Hi Sim,

Before you do anything understand that all your problems can be sorted out. It'll be a long road but a road which does end.

Firstly, your student loan - you're only paying this when you're earning, correct?

satchmo1

Sim, everyone wants to know if you are ok - on both your threads. Please, please post even if it's to say "I'm not waving but drowning". Hugs, Satchmo1

mrs-stressed

Please Sim - keep on line on both threads if that helps...you cant see us or touch us but we are here and if there is anything any of us can do we shall do our damdest to help. Sounds trite doesnt it I know but you have spilled your financial guts on this forum and all (well most) of us know what its like to slip through the safety net - or any net for that matter. Have faith in yourself - we have in you.....

mrs s

SimIsOnTheUp

Thank you so much ladies and gents.

I've posted on the other thread - https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3009206

Need to go eat, and get some light relief from Iron Man 2!

Will reply to you all individually later.

Thank you again.

Hugs,

Sim x

HunniBunni

so glad to hear your ok.

hunniB xx

clearmydebts

Glad you are okay. Did you get a chance to contact MIND yet? (not nagging just wondering)