Do I owe her any money

blue_monkey_2

I think you need to go and see the police if she is visiting you and harrassing you for money - TODAY. She has a court order, even a debt collecor can done for harrassing for money!! Tell them she is trying to blackmail you, and do not be ashamed to do this. She wants the money - which is what I said from the start - otherwise she would continue to take you through the courts. Then you can tell the court when you go that she has been using threatening behaviour and will show the kind of person she is.

Did you call anyone in regards to getting legal representation yet?

I would ensure you keep the texts from her refusing the furniture as this proves she is money orientated. Tell the court she is welcome to have the furniture back. I would make sure that this now gets set aside. Have you got another date back yet? One would assume by her visit she now knows you are contexting it and she realises she has more money to pay.

What was the money put in the bank for? Was it for getting work done on the house? Because if this is the case she *may* well be entitled to something but it would only be a portion of what the house was sold for divided by the number of years you was together and doing work on the house. I am sure it is not going to be anything near what you paid for it - but she took that risk. As anyone does when they go into a relationship.

How much is she suing you for?

Also, do you have the text where she dumped you? SHE was the one that chose to walk away from her 'investment' so it's not like you asked her for money and did a flit. Also, she cannot ask you for money back for gifts she bought you, that will be laughed out of court so it would be worth going just for that. (I's love to be a fly on the wall for that BTW).

My friend was going out with a bloke, she had a house, they got a loan 'together' secured on the house she had 5k, he had 10k. And then he left her with her owing the money. Despite her having a signed agreement she could nto get the money back off him, she ended up selling her house to be able to repay it and there was nothing she could do about it. I am pretty sure that the same applies here. You did not con her scam her out of the money, she willingly made that choice to put it in the account. She also made the choice to walk away.

And tell her you will see her in court, smile and walk away, if she comes again. Did anyone witness the visit to your workplace and demands for money?

Also, breathe a deep sigh of releif - can you IMAGINE what would be happening if you had children together.....

paddyrg

I wonder if she also wants a share in the depreciation of the house - what's her share of the £23000 loss? Well fair's fair ;-)

Clive_Woody

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Many great points made and extremley helpful at that. Just to clarify I owned the house from 2005 till 2010 I had it with my ex in joint names till 2007 then we split up and I took the mortgage in my name> Then I met Kate who is now trying to shaft me. We had planned on living together but she never moved in. I didnt live in the house for a while as mmy ex trashed it so spent alot of time decorating and was staying at my dads the day I did move in on the 5th November she dum,ped me by text. Any furniture she bought was for us to use when she moved in but she ended it and I have the texts from her refusing to take it back and wanting cash for everything. She did regualary put money in my account through her own free will but as I said it was because we were going to be living together. I sold my house for £23000 less than what I bought it for as I had had enough and wanted to just move on which I have done I only got a few thousand of the cash for myself. She visited my place of work and also sent her parents who gave me a ultamatum £7000 in 48 hours and this will stop. I refused as I have said all a long I dont owe you anything. I have legal advice with my bank I will use that

You sure can pick em.....have you considered becoming a monk?