Loosing a friend

charlie792

Sorry I just really need to post this because Im crying my eyes out right now....

I lost a very close friend 3.5 years ago after he was involved in a road accident. I hate to admit that Id not thought about him for a while, infact I hate even more to admit I could hardly see his face in my mind - but I just woke up from a dream and there he was exactly how I remember him, sitting there talking to me, anyway I can't stop thinking about it now and Im so upset its unbeleivable.....

Barneysmom

Grief is a strange thing.

It'll hit you no matter what, sometimes straight away and sometimes it'll stay buried for a long time as it has with you.

Maybe something has triggered it but at least now you are letting it out xx

Kate78

A friend of mine took his life five years ago. Every now and again I still have dreams about him (where he is alive and well) and I wake up just so unbelievably sad knowing that he isn't any more.

The amount of grief you feel is proportionate to how much that person meant to you. It helps me to remember that, because although it hurts at the time, someone meaning a lot to you isn't a bad thing even if they are no longer with us.

Hugs to you xxx

BitterAndTwisted

Yep, grief will tap you on the shoulder when you least expect it, even when you think you might have accepted the loss and are dealing with it OK.

I lost a dear friend in the same way nearly twenty years ago now, and sometimes he comes back to me in dreams and when I wake I still have a little sob on the quiet.

thatgirlsam

My dad died 23 years ago and I absolutley love to dream about him, still do from time to time

He is exactly as he was.. he died age 36 and in my dreams he hasn't aged or grown older

Its lovely, I wake up feeling as though he has visited

Its a cliche but time is a great healer and while you never get over a loved one dying time helps to ease the grief and you will find any dreams of loved ones a comfort ( i do anyway)

mountainofdebt

I became friendly with someone nearly 25 years ago and unfortuantely he died in an accident on date that is very memorable.

When that day comes around I do think of him and what a waste of a life.

OP - I couldn't' picture my friend but that doesn't mean to say I didn't value our friendship

valos_mummy

When my dad died (lung cancer in 2008) a few months later mum had a dream about him. When she woke the next day she was having a tea in bed and turned on the tv. It was a repeat of the antiques roadshow they'd filmed near to us and dad had gone to visit at the time. And whilst they were evaluating some bit of stuff, who was one of the people in the background watching......;)

Coincidence most likely, but she said it was like he was showing her he was still around.

pupsicola

Your dream has probably come as a shock to you which is why it is playing on your mind and upsetting you so much. A very similar thing happened to me just before Xmas. A friend I lost years ago came into my dream, I could see him so clearly, he was talking to me and laughing and telling me a joke. I remember laughing in my dream and then I woke suddenly, sobbing. The reality of it just being a dream felt awful.

After a few months of loosing him I couldn't picture him in my mind or remember what his voice sounded like. I'd be reminded of him often if certain music played, or if I smelt strong coffee etc.

I spoke to his mum about it and she said something that really helped me. Basically that people who mean alot to us never really leave us. They are there in our subconscious and we dont forget them or what they were like. It helped me alot at the time. Hope it has helped you too.

wornoutmumoftwo

I think the people we love visit us in our dreams. I lost a baby a while back, and my dad when I was young, and I had this lovely dream where they were together, and happy, and it gave me so much comfort to think they are together and I've never had that dream again. I feel it was a message to put my mind at ease.

I am very sorry for your loss.

Nottoobadyet

thatgirlsam wrote: »

My dad died 23 years ago and I absolutley love to dream about him, still do from time to time

He is exactly as he was.. he died age 36 and in my dreams he hasn't aged or grown older

Its lovely, I wake up feeling as though he has visited

Its a cliche but time is a great healer and while you never get over a loved one dying time helps to ease the grief and you will find any dreams of loved ones a comfort ( i do anyway)

What a beautiful post. Thank you.