OMG Major Bridesmaid Rant!! Sorry will be long

susiecm3

I agree the dresses are lovely for an adult and agree its YOUR wedding and dont let you MIL and sIL dictate, i do however think they are not that suitable for the children due to having the bust area :-( i had similar aged bridesmaid and totally understand how hard it was to find something that suited everyone, in the end the age groups all had different!! At the time the teenagers wanted a long dress, i think it was just because they wanted that princess feel if that makes sense, hope you get sorted hun x

isica1903

Thanks for all the replies.
It all started with MIL saying one of the nieces should be bridesmaid as she'd never been one before, then second niece had a tantrum that she wanted to be one as well, so I felt to include 3rd niece as well as she would be the only one left out.

I agree the dress is not ideal for them, but I hadn't set my heart on them wearing it anyway. I just wanted to go through all the options available, which included trying this dress in a size 10 (her usual size) and trying the ivory flower girl dress in their size. I don;t think either scenario is great but I have not found anything that would match the adult dresses.

The thing is, I think she had something in mind that she wanted to wear and now I've shown her what I'd like it isn't what she expected. Will have to wait and see what the outcome is hopefully tonight when OH has spoken to them.

Afitos

I love the dress and echo what others have said, at the end of the day you have to be happy. Its your day . That age are difficult, my two bridesmaids are 12 (very grown up) and 13 (very fussy about dresses) initially they wanted to wear different dresses in different colours !! Good Luck for tonight

Stephb1986_2

I think the dress is lovely, Let them get on with their sulk it's their loss

Steph xx

laurajaylee

well ... i love the dress it so nice and you have to be happy with it ... its your day not theirs.... it will be very trickie to keep every one happy and i thingk you have done a great job in getting a dress that will suit so many shapes ... do you thinkg the girls really hate it or is it a excuse for them not to do it ... ie teenage "i dont want to do it any ways" one min and then upset that they arent bridesmaid two mins later? the dresses are lovely and you are the one who matters its your dream day and i think its unfair the stress has been put on your shoulders.. you have enought to worry about ... and rant away anytime you need a vent sometimes .... happy planning hun x

flea72

it is a lovely dress, but i i have to agree with your SIL, no 14yr old would want to wear something like that

at 14 they are too old for flower girls dresses, and not old enough for something floaty like that - what are the flower girls wearing, a dress in the same block of colour?

however, i also think your MIL has a right to give her input that her side of the family appear in the wedding party. you have sisters, children and nieces from your own side, i do think thats a bit selective

i agree its your big day, but a wedding is also about the joining of two families, and tbh i wouldnt want to get off on the wrong footing from day one, as it just leads to trouble down the line

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melb

i agree with the reply above. It's not your day - it's your and your husband's day and that includes his side of the family. there sounds to be quite a lot of resentment towards his side of the family which may have a sound basis but could end up spoiling the day if you're not careful. Could you go for something completely different but in a complementary colour for the teenagers and let them enjoy taking a full part in your happy day rather than have them feeling that they're there without your blessing.

Old_Git

my mother and father didnt invite any off my fathers married brothers and sisters to there wedding .Just the single ones where invited .
Fifty years later it was still being talked about .If you dont want them as bride maids be diplomatic and lie .Think off a good excuse not to have them ,cost to much money ,the minister suggested a smaller wedding party or whatever .Remember an in law is for life not just for Christmas .

flea72

if the flower girls are wearing ivory, then i would think it would be quite easy to find a dress that would match, that would befit a teenager. then to complete the look, add sashes to the ivory dresses (very cheap to make yourself), that match the older girls so it all ties in

bhs, actually do a teen range of dresses. sort of a mid-way between flower girl and adult styles

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