Depression / Anxiety advice wanted

pinkfluffythings

I know how you fell OP, I have suffered depression, bereavement, anxiety. Get yourself to the Doctors, you need to have counselling and possibly some anti depressants.
I said for year that I am not taking bloody prozac, I don't need tablets like that because I'm not a nutter BUT I have learnt that a little bit of help from medication and counselling has lifted my mood and life.

You have been through bereavements, such a heartbreaking thing. Talking to someone really helps, you need to pour your heart out to someone and close doors in your mind. When my Dad passed away I held everything in for 6 months and then I broke and I was crushed but it took months after before I did anything about it, got help and its helping really well. In my own head things get blown out of perportion and get bigger than they are and talking helps gets thing into some form of perceptive.

Hope you are ok hunnie xx

csh_2

building_with_lego wrote: »

I don't have much to add to the above advice, except that the last time I saw my doc, when I thought I had another depression starting, he recommended Moodgym http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome and another online CBT site based in Scotland that I've forgotten the name of (sorry). You work through sections and it changes the way you think and see things, and I actually found it very helpful. I was sceptical at first but was trying to conceive and didn't want anti-ds.

Good luck, be gentle on yourself. You've had a really tough time recently and It's entirely understandable that you'd feel this way. It **WILL** pass, I promise.

http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/


I've recently started taking AD's for anxiety/depression issues. I do suffer more from social anxiety and get really stressed having family dinners etc! I find my mother especially difficult to deal with.

I've had problems at work which has led the GP to sticking me on these tabs but I don't feel depressed in the tradional sense. When I'm not overly anxious I'm a happy positive person so it seems strange to me to be on AD's! But I do find it hard to motivate myself at the moment and seem to be permantly procranstinating and avoiding doing anything so hopefully the tabs will help.

Alizarin

When you see your GP, ask if your local mental health team runs any CBT courses - if they do, your GP should be able to give you details of the types of courses they run. I know that in my area they run a coping with bereavement course as well as many others suitable for people with depression and anxiety. I really can't recommend CBT enough, as it's been a massive help for me.

Cookiepops

Thanks all for your kind responses. I am going to see my GP later this week. I just had my annual appraisal at work and it confirmed what I already knew, lack of leadership, assertiveness, problems making decisions - these are all things I never had a problem with in the past. Whilst I already knew that, just hearing it from my manager has really upset me.
Also, with respects to the poster that asked if I had berevament counselling, I haven't. All the bereavements I have had have not been immediate relatives so I have always tried to hold it together for others ie. for my Mum when my Grandma passed away.

I think its all been made worse because I have been ill and off work for the last month so been very isolated, not getting out much, diet has been terrible etc.. I know I need to help myself more but think I need a little extra help too. What is also pushing me is the fact that my dog is old and ill, and I know her passing away will be inevitable - if I don't get help now, I just know that will push me over the edge.

Thanks

ERICS_MUM

lisajh29 wrote: »

Thanks all for your kind responses. I am going to see my GP later this week. I just had my annual appraisal at work and it confirmed what I already knew, lack of leadership, assertiveness, problems making decisions - these are all things I never had a problem with in the past. Whilst I already knew that, just hearing it from my manager has really upset me..

Thanks

I'm so glad you are seeing the doctor. Please tell him\her everything, don't hold back, don't try to minimise the way you feel. If you don't think you can do that, take a print of this thread and get them to read it. By the time you leave the surgery hopefully you will have a clear understanding of what you can do and how the doctor can help you, to start feeling better.

On the work front, it's very unprofessional of your manager to save up all that "criticism" for an annual appraisal. When I managed staff I monitored their performances through the year and if I spotted anything not quite right we would have an informal meeting (not a disciplinary, more a development mtg) and agree what needed to be done. Usually a combination of training (provided or funded by the company) and building up confidence. I worked on the principle that there would be no nasty surprises at the appraisal. Your manager could do with some training herself so she can get the best from her team. I know you can't influence this but I hope you will take some comfort and perhaps confidence from it.

Diet wise, try having just one decent plate of food a day at first(and junk for the rest :rotfl:) such as a good cereal and a banana, or wholemeal toast and bolied egg, beans on toast etc. Rubbish food tastes so good and is comforting when you feel low, so realistically it's probably impossible for you to cut it out altogether at the moment. .

Sorry I don't mean to lecture you, it's just I've been through all this myself. Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up over little things.

Linda xxxx

rozmister

I have depression and other complications and have recently been discharged from the outpatient mental health team (I only went every 3 months by the end). I still have patches where it all just seem a bit bleak and I find the most important thing is just to keep yourself going. I know it's easier said then done but sleep at night, with Nytol or stronger if necessary, keep a stock of healthy ready meals to eat so you have something in you and keep going to things like work and activities you normally do (as long as your schedule isn't so busy it's putting a lot of pressure on you) so when you do get better you still have your life.

Going to the Drs is a really good idea. I find making a list helps you to keep focused on every problem so you don't forget anything important if you panic or get waylaid and end up not making it really clear. Some Drs are more sympathetic than others so if the Dr you see first is pants don't let that be the end of it make an appointment with someone else. You have every right to medical treatment if you are depressed and a right to treatment that meets your specific needs as an individual so don't let anyone else railroad you.

Cookiepops

Thanks Linda, don't mind the lecture at all!

I can't blame my boss, its not his criticism, its the areas for improvement that goes out to other recipients to feedback on me and that is only done annually - to be honest, there are no suprises in there as I know I have been unable to make decisions lateley. Sounds silly, but I have even noticied it in my driving, Im very hesitant!
Its just nice to be able to vent it all here and thats a great idea about printing out this thread - just hope I have an understanding GP. I've not been able to talk to anyone about it, not even H. I think its because the bereavances were closer to him than me and I feel very weak for it getting to me like this and he has enough on his plate without me falling apart on him too. I'll see what the GP says.

Thanks