Do you claim for Child benefits when the Baby is born?

GlasweJen

Why do you say in your OP that you have no one to look after your wee one and then later on reveal your OH is actually a nursery nurse? Surely regardless of where she works she will always have contacts within other nurseries so will be well placed with "inside information" on the best placement for the LO.

Also I think it's disgusting that a nursery worker would comment on parents bonds with their children, considering she'd only see the kids with their parents when they're being dropped off and picked up and possibly for a few hours during the year. It is highly unprofessional and her qualification is in child care, not psychiatry so she should really keep her gob shut. I know many parents who have kids and no jobs, stay at home all day and the kids just run wild. Surely a working parent who cares enough to source good child care is better than a non-working parent who doesn't care at all?

ETA I don't have kids

ironman1

Another post taken the wrong way, for some reason lately on here it is overly PC (in my opinion) and you have to be careful with everything you say.

As for the unprofessional about work thing, what a load of rubbish. She does her job, the parents like her as do the kids. After work , as a couple we talk about our day. Like most people. She has told me a couple of the kids seem distant from their parent(s) and don't even like leaving the nursery at night. Thats all. I want our boy to be with his mum for at least a year, that's our choice. I mentioned it depends on circumstances but to me they should be growing up at a young age with their parent IF AT ALL POSSIBLE. It makes me laugh as if i'd told her or posted on here that I was urging her to go back to work after a couple of months I'd be slaughtered for that!

As for having 'contacts', why would she? This is only her second place in terms of Nursery work and she is only 24.

GlasweJen

I would expect your other half to at least know a nursery worker who left her job and went to a different nursery in the area where she'll meet nursery workers who have worked at other nurseries prior. She'll probably work with people who have worked in other nurseries before coming to the one she works in.

I work in optics and 2 of my colleagues come from different opticians, one has moved on to a different practice in the same chain and one to an independant practice. I'm also only 24. When I wanted a test for my niece who has learning difficulties I asked around to see who had the most child friendly practice and took her there. Surely your partner can do similar when it comes to placing your child?

DevilsAdvocate1

If you both find it tough financially after the baby is born, could you girlfriend become a registered childminder? She already has experience and qualifications. Might be something to think about?

D.