Is it better to love or be loved????

sam1609

Morning everyone,

Last night my friend asked me this questions and we debated about it all night......

I am now just very curious as to other peoples opinion?

I know both are ideal and they work hand in hand but if you had to choose one which would it be and why?

mrcow

I'd rather be loved.

Couldn't stand the years of unrequitedness. It would probably tip me over the edge.

Very diffifcult to imagine one without the other tbh. Even if you didn't have head over heels love - tenderness and caring is still required in any relationship.

SailorSam

We all want to be loved.
When you love someone you can feel great, the excitement of seeing them; talking to them; just thinking of them,. But how awful can it be when they don't love you back.
So i think the answer to your question must be it's better to be loved.
But then if someone loves you and is constantly phoning or wanting to see you and you don't like them. You get so fed up, that makes you feel awful.

LJM

i prefer both cant choose

balletshoes

sam1609 wrote: »

Morning everyone,

Last night my friend asked me this questions and we debated about it all night......

I am now just very curious as to other peoples opinion?

I know both are ideal and they work hand in hand but if you had to choose one which would it be and why?

It depends what kind of love you are talking about - are you talking about the kind of love you have for a partner, or the kind of love you have for your children? love for your family, love for your pets etc? All different kinds of love.

pupsicola

Are we talking about relationships here or love in general?. Obviously I have always felt loved by my family and love them back. Even if half of them drive me barmy on occasions, there is always an underlying love for them.

As far as meeting someone and falling in love or them loving me. Am not sure its ever happened properly yet. Despite having been married in the past for 14 years. God isn't that an awful admission. At the time I thought we both loved each other but now I really dont know.

I love my children unconditionally. Was not a maternal person but was blown over by the instant love I had for them. I feel loved by them too.

You have made me think, good post

KiKi

Obviously, you might love someone who doesn't love you back on a one-to-one basis.

But in a broader sense generally I find that people who love others, are people who are loved. People who are loved by others, love people back.

I also think it's very easy to love other people, but not realise or appreciate (or refuse to realise or appreciate) how much other people love you.

KiKi

Sublime_2

Neither.

I am loved by my close family, my children, parents, sisters, etc. I love them back unconditionally. Can do no wrong.