Would this be reasonable?

LJM

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

If her place isn't very nice and you have a third bedroom, why doesn't she move in full time so the rent, as well as the bills, can be split three ways?

i would have to agree with this sounds very sensible

WolfSong2000

Thanks for the advice guys...for the record, my housemate gets on really well with my friend, so there's no issues there, thank goodness. My friend *should* have an idea of bills, etc, as she has rented her own place in the past, but at the moment she's staying in uni accommodation and all bills, etc, are included, so maybe it hasn't occured to her...she has offered me £5, plus bought 2 pizza's and naan breads...that was her financial/food contribution. She also did some washing up, but I've been left with about 90% of it, so this also has to be addressed...should have done it whilst she was over, but I have exams this month, so have basically been leaving her to her own devices downstairs whilst I revise in upstairs office, usually only coming down to cook us both lunch and supper.

I would be very tempted to ask her to move in permenantly, but unfortunately the house doesn't have an HMO license, so can't do it . I think I'll have to work out average weekly food costs and times that by how often she's staying over, then add a wee bit for utilities if she's planning on coming over more than once a week. That sound reasonable?

Emmylou_2

Not at all unreasonable. My BF stays here for some weekends when he's at Uni in the Midlands most of the week.

Best Mate (BM) and I have shared for ever, and she was getting a bit narked about him being here all the time, and her subsidising him. I offered to pay extra (ie I pay 60% and she pay 40% rather than the current 50/50) but she said she'd prefer the money to come from him.

BF was a bit "bloke" about this (didn't even think before we mentioned it!) but once we explained that he was using power/water/heat/food and we were specifically recording or saving him stuff on the Sky+, then he could either give us cash or pay for a hotel for both of us every weekend.

He now gives us £100 per month, which includes his "normal" food (but not alcohol, unless it's wine with a Sunday dinner), utilities (including one load of washing/drying over the weekend if he needs it) and all the TV he can cram in in a week.

He was down for two weeks over Christmas/New Year and so gave us £150 cash and went thirds on the alcohol costs.

BitterAndTwisted

Personally, I'd just stop buying food until she puts her hand in her pocket. Which she should have done some time ago if she had an ounce of sense or sensitivity. I can't believe that someone is hanging around like that downstairs on their own all of the time. I can't see what's in it for her, bar the freeloading

WolfSong2000

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Personally, I'd just stop buying food until she puts her hand in her pocket. Which she should have done some time ago if she had an ounce of sense or sensitivity. I can't believe that someone is hanging around like that downstairs on their own all of the time. I can't see what's in it for her, bar the freeloading

I think she just likes my house...I am lucky enough to be renting a lovely, technically 5 bedroom house (though 2 of the bedrooms have been converted into offices for me and housemate), which is warm, cosey, etc, plus she's guaranteed 3 good meals a day...at her place she lives in a small, derelict flat with a tiny kitchen no communal area, so she spends all her time alone in her room which is cold and draughty (heating comes on for an hour in morning and an hour in the evening and they're not allowed to have their own heaters in the interim).

I can sympathise as when I was doing my undergrad, I had a similar set-up, and pretty much lived in my room. It wasn't ideal, and as I have plenty of space in this house, I don't begrudge sharing it. I am just wary of the utility costs, plus the added food costs which mount up.

I think I just need to be brave and say to her that I'm going to need a small contribution from her so Alex and I don't have to swallow the costs ourselves...she's not an unreasonable girl, I don't think, but if she's planning on staying over as much as she has been, she'll need to "muck in" more, costs wise and with the cleaning/washing up.

Susan_Frost

No - not a "small contribution" it needs to be a "realistic contribution" - both money and effort.

You are studying and then making her meals, washing up, etc. - come on, get real

jcr16

sounds very reasonable .

findingmyownway

WolfSong2000 wrote: »

I would be very tempted to ask her to move in permenantly, but unfortunately the house doesn't have an HMO license, so can't do it .

Whats a HMO licence?

Do you (or your current housemate) own the house? Or rent?

WolfSong2000

findingmyownway wrote: »

Whats a HMO licence?

Do you (or your current housemate) own the house? Or rent?

I rent the house, and if you're renting a place with more than 2 unrelated people, you need an HMO license, which is costly and time consuming to get, so really not worth it. If this wasn't the case, I'd just ask the girl to move in and we could split all bills 3 ways...cheaper for everyone that way

RAS

You need to stop feeding this girl and she needs to start doing the cooking or washing up, rather than sponging off you.