Can I get my OH Parental Responsibility without being married?

laurenjs88

Thanks for all the advice OH does have PR for the youngest, and SD has PR for DD1. SD wont have anything to do with DD1 mutual decision and doesnt pay child support. I dont think he'd say no because it means less responsibility for him in his eyes. I think he'd only say no out of spite.

I don't want a massive wedding but our family has big weddings! were kind of the poor branch of a family (on my side his side is poor in general) and although they know were poor were expected to have the same numbers. It'll be 62 for the whole day and thats just family! At the moment we have £6.43 to our name untill Feb so its going to be quite a while before we can take that step!

We were looking into adoption but I don't want DD1 birth certificate changing to having adoptive parents.

The main reason were looking at it now is because I have MH issues and go on suicidal "rampages" every couple of weeks/months and if one time I do go too far I want to make sure that the kids stay together with OH.

It does look like we'll have to wait though... Were looking into doing wills and will do this when I've stabilised abit more

rachbc

You won't be able to get PR for your OH without 'SD' saying yes even when you are married, unless you apply to a court for it....a will naming OH as a guardian would be the best first step

onlyroz

What on earth is "SD"?

hermanmunster_3

I think it means "sperm donor" - using the term to indicate a biological father who has had no contact since birth minus 9 months

sueeve

My daughter went for the £104 option at the registry office, + a new summer dress, and her girlfriend gave her some flowers. And she couldn't have been happier. A marriage is about life, and while we would have contributed without question it was the life together that mattered. It worked out cheaper than doing all sorts of legal bits to get the security.

mookiandco

laurenjs88 wrote: »

The main reason were looking at it now is because I have MH issues and go on suicidal "rampages" every couple of weeks/months and if one time I do go too far I want to make sure that the kids stay together with OH.

It does look like we'll have to wait though... Were looking into doing wills and will do this when I've stabilised abit more

Even if he gets PR it doesn't mean that the child will automatically stay with him if something happens to you.

Also, making a Will and naming a person as a Guardian does not give them an automatic right to care for that child. Anyone else can make an application for Residence of that child regardless of your wishes (including the child's biological father). If they don't have PR (e.g a grandparent ) they will have to ask the Courts permission to make the application in the first place, but permission is usually granted (although that doesn't mean that they will be successful with their application for Residence).

The Court will take your wishes into account, but you are not around to give your views/reasons etc so what will carry weight will be what those that are making/defending the application have to say and ultimately the Court will decide on the basis of what is in the child's best interests regardless of your wishes.