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snowmaid

noodle84 wrote: »

This is one reason my OH's ex has given as a reason she feels its not acceptable for his DD to stay with us 3 nights out of 8, I personally feel that as long as the child knows that they are loved by both parents then what is the problem with the child having two homes? My OH's DD has a bedroom at our house and her own toys and clothes here just as she has at her mums house, why is it that she should only be allowed ONE home and that should be at her mums? I'm not getting at you snowmaid but we have been faced with this as a reason and I really can't see the arguement, unfortunatly lots of parents split up these days and as sad as that is children have to have the time divided between parents, I don't understand why unless there are welfare issues or one parent has shown no interest that one parent seems to think that they are more important than the other, they both brought the child in to the world and they should both have equal rights to see their child an equal amount of time. Thats my opinion anyway....:)

I know you are not having a go and I totally understand and sympathise with your OH situation. I really do.

I come from a divorced home. My dad had access to us every 2nd weekend and then school holidays. (Although my mom would have to phone my dad to remind him that it was his weekend to be with us, then he'd go fishing!!) :cool:

My ex and I had the same arrangement, every 2nd weekend and school holidays. Although he would fetch them for school, we stayed in the same area, and he could really see them whenever he wished, but during the week they were at home.

My grandchild is 3. I know how I would feel if I had 2 homes, and 3 nights there, then moving again to another. I would feel disrupted. But having said that, I know that children adapt.

tattycath

noodle84 wrote: »

This is one reason my OH's ex has given as a reason she feels its not acceptable for his DD to stay with us 3 nights out of 8, I personally feel that as long as the child knows that they are loved by both parents then what is the problem with the child having two homes? My OH's DD has a bedroom at our house and her own toys and clothes here just as she has at her mums house, why is it that she should only be allowed ONE home and that should be at her mums? I'm not getting at you snowmaid but we have been faced with this as a reason and I really can't see the arguement, unfortunatly lots of parents split up these days and as sad as that is children have to have the time divided between parents, I don't understand why unless there are welfare issues or one parent has shown no interest that one parent seems to think that they are more important than the other, they both brought the child in to the world and they should both have equal rights to see their child an equal amount of time. Thats my opinion anyway....:)

Totally agree with you, Our children have 2 homes, one with us and one with their dad / mum. (as applicable). I see no reason why they should only have one home (or why it should always be the mother/parent with care).
Our children have rooms that are theirs in each respective house with all their own clothes, toys, personal effects.
i don't think that it would be unsettling to split their time, i think it would be unsettling if the child knew that one parent resented the time the child spent with the other parent. All too often children are put in the middle when pwcs make it obvious to the child that they don't like the child's other parent (that's not a personal reference to this case) but it is something i have experience of, and to be honest the child in question hates it and wishes both parents could get on.
I wish they could get on too-the children are paramount, it should be about the children not the parents.

nannon

I'm really pleased for you and your OH.
I am one of the "rare" section of separated parents as I am a mother and DS lives with his dad (outcome of residency order)
Bloomin heartbreaking as I have had to fight really hard to get more involved with my son.. Still, I will keep fighting and every now and again I will get a few little wins.
So well done! Enjoy having him and being more involved in his life.