Another Married Qtr Thread

ruthem215

I have an 18 month old baby and currently residing in a quarter in the south. We have been offered a quarter at our new base up north, although its not at the date we need it for. We still don't have a date for move in as there are currently people living in the house, which I know isn't unusual.

The people move out on the 5th Jan, my husband starts his new position on the 4th Jan. We have been told we have to wait the whole 22 days until we can move in, but we will not get a date for move in until the current occupiers move out. The issue I have is my husband is currently doing a tour in afghanistan and is due to come home on the 28th Dec, so we will only have a very short time with him before he has to start the new position.

I've been looking into temporary accomodation up there, but just can't afford it, and the welfare lodge on camp is £25 a night again not something we can afford...

Me and our toddler are of course unable to move up with him, so are stuck in the south for another month before we can see him again. I do not drive, have no friends or family in the south, and suffer from depression. I spoke to housing yesterday who said it was unlikely we could get in the house any sooner, but write us a letter and we shall see what we can do. Is there really any point? I feel really down about the whole thing, I've missed him so much (and I'm sure I'm not the only wife going through this!) and feel like we just won't get the time together as a family before hes gone again.....

badgerhead

im no expert but if the house is vacated on the 5th jan, then i think mhs/de (not sure) have the house cleaned and do any repairs which takes 3 weeks or whatever, so you cant move in till then. but, i have heard that you can sign some sort of waiver to the cleaning, just means doing it yourself, and take over the quarter earlier. i cant even remember if this was from a reliable source or just filthy rumour. So maybe a glimmer of hope there ?

Another thing, what about your blokes potl leave and relocation leave ? can that not be used if entitled ?

AFF_company_representative

Hi ruthem,

Could I suggest you contact one of the Families Federations for advice? If you're connected to the Army, contact Ali Willis, AFF Housing Specialist on [EMAIL="housing@aff.org.uk"]housing@aff.org.uk[/EMAIL] tel: 01276 412193;

Navy - NFF at http://www.nff.org.uk/

RAF - RAF FF at http://www.raf-ff.org.uk/

HTH

Best wishes

AFF

samm1551

Relocation Leave is 2 weeks. Can hubby take this? If not why not? I would get him to ask his new unit because when my husband went back to Battalion (BFG) they told him to drive back home again (UK) to take it. Try it. Also maybe a letter from your GP? Welfare will help you in that case, and again AFF definately.

ruthem215

Thanks for the advice. The whole thing is just one big mess, I guess I just need to man up and be thankful that he will be coming home eventually, and that we will be moved eventually. I just can't see how he will be able to take his poddle and relocation leave, as I said he starts on the 4th and also has a two week course booked down south as soon as he starts, just don't see how he will be able to fit in having any time off at all.

He's explained his sitation numerous times and nothing is being done. He also informed me yesterday that most of the lads are leaving early for xmas, whereas he has to stay in afghanistan as he is A/Cpl and they 'need' him, so instead of going early, or even going on time, hes actually coming home 3 days later at least. Thanks, anyway all I can do is try.

ravey_davey

hi there, ive seen this done a few times with leave espically to my self.

you are entiteled to take you POTL (post op tour leave) within 3 months i believe of when you get back. as for your husbands relocation leave it even states now on posting orders that it is to be taken at the unit you are leaving not the arriving unit so as not to mess up courses /ops etc. if they are not giving him his leave then he needs to be in touch with apc glasgow who have the full power to move back his posting date. i had this done this year, if you have any sort of decent welfare team they should help out, if not why not even try the new units welfare team?

he will be staying behind in afghan as part of the continuity team i did this my self 2 years ago, this means that as he has been in theatre longer he is entiteled to more POTL. and a bigger op tour bonus as that is calculated on a daily basis in theatre.

as a side note if he comes to the end of the year i.e april 1st and he still has leave on his card then ensure to write a letter to the new CO to ask for the leave to be carried over, 15 days are automaticly carrier over by the clerks but you need to write the letter prior to april 1st to carry over any extra make sure to quote operational reasons as to why he has not been able to take the leave! (: i did this last year as i had 34 days carried over! my CO was very helpfull, so was APC glasgow with refrence to posting dates etc.

just remember there are always other courses and other course dates it just depends if this course will affect his next posting or not?

hope this helps in a little way!

ruthem215

Hi guys thanks for all the advice, does anyone know if there is anything that can be done or what the rules are regarding housing within the 22 day period? We were told that they have to offer you a house within 14 days of acknowledgment of the housing app, which they did on the 14th day! We were supposed to moved in before the 4th which is when hubby started new posting. But we have only just received our housing date which is the 2nd of feb. The family moved out of their house before christmas, and their official march out was the 5th Jan. So 5th of jan until 2nd feb isn't 22 days is it?! I'm just fed up being down here in the south on my own with my toddler while hubby is in the north at his new job, I see him on the weekends....thanks

montymud

hiya hun, the rumour about waiving the cleaning is actually true, my friend managed it - she kicked up a right stink so that she could move in, she didnt care about the state of it at all. Im really sorry to hear you don't have any friends where you are. I am also in the south but the chances of us being in the same location are slim! I do hope it all works out for you though

angeleyesxx

Hi guys

I hope this all gets sorted out for you soon as we moved from up north about 4 months ago to down south and so far i havent seen my hubby alot in that time due to courses etc apart from the weekends that is and i'm down here with our 1 yr old daughter with another baby on the way in april.

I remember when before we moved into our quarter that the housing totally naffed up with us as they lost the forms and at the last minute we had to get oh's co to sort it out for us and thankfully within a day they offered us the place we've got now, which so far is ok? Hopefully you'll probally find the people up north alot friendlier than down south and soz you southern peeps but where we are they aint happy chappies or at least the ones i've met arent or it might just be this town! anyway, hope you get things sorted and everything works out ok for you xx

ruthem215

montymud wrote: »

hiya hun, the rumour about waiving the cleaning is actually true, my friend managed it - she kicked up a right stink so that she could move in, she didnt care about the state of it at all. Im really sorry to hear you don't have any friends where you are. I am also in the south but the chances of us being in the same location are slim! I do hope it all works out for you though

Hiya thanks for your reply! Yeah I think the most frustrating thing is we went up there to see it, looked through the windows and the place was empty, and gleaming - lovely and all cleaned! So why do we have to wait when hubby has already started his work at the base

angeleyesxx

yeh that is a bit of a bummer having to wait when the place is empty but it might still need work doing to it and that could be why you're having to wait. You could also ring the housing and ask them if theres any chance of moving in early?