Gift list....

RainbowDrops

It's all personal preference, and as someone else mentioned, it depends on how you think your guests would react.
I'm not having evening only guests, so it's not really an issue for me, although I wouldn't mention the gifts on evening only invites.
I've been an evening only guest, and there was no mention of gifts there. I just bought some nice mugs, and other friends clubbed in for a gift voucher.

katerinasol

emsbet wrote: »

I maybe could have asked but I left it a bit last minute and figured that they would be busy with other, more important things

Asking for money does bother some people as it isn't traditional and people like to give a present but I think times have changed so much that people don't need the household things they used to as they often live together for before being married.

I did ask quite a lot of people for their opinions before getting all the invites printed with the message on and they all said that even as evening guests they would rather know what we wanted than buy something that would just end up gathering dust.
Oh BTW we are of to New York and Boston for our honeymoon:j

xx

Sounds amazing! Me and my H2B want to do a NYC to LA road trip at some point in our lifetime, hire a Cadillac with bench seats and blast Freebird down the highway how long are you going for?

I think also the problem with asking for money is people feel pressured into giving a lot because they don't want to look stingy but that's not the case at all. We aren't putting anything about the gift list on the invitations I don't think but were thinking of putting "It's your presence not your presents that we want, however if you do want to give us something then money for our honeymoon or Amazon vouchers would be gratefully received". I think there is no point whatsoever in registering for a traditional list for the sake of formality and people are starting to realise that.

emsbet

katerinasol wrote: »

Sounds amazing! Me and my H2B want to do a NYC to LA road trip at some point in our lifetime, hire a Cadillac with bench seats and blast Freebird down the highway how long are you going for?

I think also the problem with asking for money is people feel pressured into giving a lot because they don't want to look stingy but that's not the case at all. We aren't putting anything about the gift list on the invitations I don't think but were thinking of putting "It's your presence not your presents that we want, however if you do want to give us something then money for our honeymoon or Amazon vouchers would be gratefully received". I think there is no point whatsoever in registering for a traditional list for the sake of formality and people are starting to realise that.

We are only going for a few days in each city as the OH can't get anymore time off work.

I know a lot of people don't like to give money because they don't want to look stingy but I can't really see it myself as if you give from the guest list the couple know how much each item costs but hey ho! Ours have gone now so I guess if anyone doesn't like it it's kinda tough because I can't change it now

xx

Debbie001

We have had a few lines printed on all the invites that says "The most important thing for us is your presence during the day to celebrate our marriage and gifts are by no means expected. I know that this maybe controversial but after having been invited to an evening reception with no guidance on what the couple wanted I felt that it would have been better to spend my money on something they would want.

twirlypinky

I need to find a way of saying we don't want any presents at all. People that are coming out to Rhodes for the wedding have spent more than enough money just coming out to be with us, and people that don't come to the wedding generally don't buy presents anyway.

White_Sapphire

twirlypinky wrote: »

I need to find a way of saying we don't want any presents at all. People that are coming out to Rhodes for the wedding have spent more than enough money just coming out to be with us, and people that don't come to the wedding generally don't buy presents anyway.

How about

To go to Rhodes is no small feat.
We've asked so much, it's true.
One more request, if you accept,
no gift is bought; it comes in you.

VintageBrat

I will be having a little note in all of my invites.. All 160 of my guests are getting a meal and good entertainment out of me :P