Baby moverment sensor mat?

skylight

andycarmi wrote:

So DH thinks in a couple of weeks she can go in her own room. WHICH does scare me

The current youngest who is now 2 has only just gone into her own room (do to space constraints!!) and I am still worried every night! Wake up to check on her!

andycarmi

going2die_rich wrote:

Something to consider though is, just say something was to happen to your child would you know what to do? If not, maybe your £50 is better spent on a first aid course for babies rather than a mat thats only going to have a life span of a week before it becomes unbearable for false alarms. After all the mat would only alert you, not actually go ahead and save your child, you'd still be waiting for an ambulance.

My HV is finding me a course. So true.

Poppy9

kit wrote:

.....I still have a monitor for my 19 month old as I can't hear her cry..... I sometime even sleep through her crying with the monitor next to me!

Didn't you know you have to be weaned off these:rotfl: You can attend a support group called Baby Monitor Addicts Anonymous. You do have to stand up and say "I'm a Mom and I'm addicted to the baby monitor" but with the right help and support you can give them up.

My DD now 11 and I'm pleased to say that I can now watch telly downstairs with subtitles off and volume on while she sleeps soundly upstairs. It is now 7 years since I overcame my addiction to the monitor with it's flashing lights (just in case I didn't hear the sounds for some reason).

Becles

I've already had 2 babies, and I'm expecting my third which will be brought up the same as the other 2.

Both slept in their own rooms from day 1 and I never had monitors or alarms. They scream loud enough when they need attention!

I figured that a monitor would put me off sleeping. Both babies made muffly sounds when sleeping, and I think I would find myself listening out for them rather than getting some decent sleep myself.

I do think manufaturers play on your fears and make you think you need all this stuff, when you can manage just fine without it. I never had any safety equipment either apart from a stair gate. They were just taught that they were not allowed to touch sockets, open cupboards and the fridge etc, and they never bothered with them.

hobo28

going2die_rich wrote:

I don't think their is anything wrong with being over worried and if the mat makes you sleep better and worry less then buy it.......
I think it's more a worry that if something ever did happen to your child how would you have felt thinking if only you had got it.

Thats exactly the sort of fear and doubts the manufacturer's feed upon. Statistically your much more likely to have a car accident than the baby to suffer from infant death syndrome. Do we stop driving in case we have an accident? Or do we go out and buy a Challenger tank?

Of course not, we manage the risk the best we can and leave the rest to fate.

And I do think that as a country we over worry. We are bringing up a whole generation of children who cannot think for themselves and are incapable of weighing up risk. That to me is one of the most important lessons a parent can teach. To make your own choices sensibly.

RHYSDAD

charlotte664 wrote:

You are being over worried!

Manufacturers play to your fears and look forward to making the obscene amounts of money out of parents.

So right, we have bought a Monitor (e-bay) and we saved around £20 on new price and it works perfectly but we check our little one about every 1/2 hour in person, just to check all ok.
Not so easy through the night and that's where the monitor really comes into it's own. However, i'm such a light sleeper that i wake pretty much when DS whimpers even very quietly.
But if you bought everything that manufacturers said you needed, you'd be very poor and they would (of course) be even richer.

A little common sense and a pragmatic approach has (touchwood) worked very well for us!!

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Hello - I'm a first time mummy and i was terrified of the way the whole cot death thing that is thrown at us all the time- People used to be advised to place there babies on their tummies to sleep but now its forbidon! what is going on - next we will be told it's best to hang our babies upsidedown to sleep (please i'm only kidding here).

Please don't be paranoid about if baby is breathing by using a mat because these things do more harm to your wellbeing. And not to mention the prices...ouch!

You will get into the routine of checking on the baby every 15-20 mins when they are sleeping - I still do and she is almost 5 months old - It will prob become the norm for you too.

When my little one was born i put her in a moses basket right next to my bed so i could see her even when i was laying down. She mainly slept on my chest too. When she was two weeks i felt guilty but i put her on her front to sleep - by this time she could lift and turn her head when laying this way so i knew she wouldnt suffocate. i actually know 3 midwives (all with babies under two,) and later found out they all did the same. Do the pillow test if neccesary.

As long as you have a room thermometer, adequate covers and do the feet-to-foot thing baby will be fine.

Please note i'm not recommending front sleeping but my little one would constantly startle herself awake so i found putting her on her tummy eliminated this and gave her a better sleep.

Good luck - Trust me, all of us go and nudge baby sometimes, just to make sure they are alive and that is usually enough.

Jakeysmum

I had one of these and while I can't say it helped me much I suppose it did give me piece of mind. However I didn't pay too much for mine, i think I got it for £20 on eBay and was able to resell it on eBay when i was finished with it. So essentially it was free.

bobsa1

I've got 3 dd's and did consider getting one for 3rd DD. I just had a monitor instead and to be honest seldom use that. DD is now two and a half and monitor is only used if there is a babysitter looking after her instead of us.

We kept all dd's in with us for the first few months (dd1 until she was a year!) and you do wake up if they cry/ snuffle during the night. However if you would feel better then get one.

Thriftylady

I've just had a baby recently and was sent home from hospital with handfuls of leaflets and the only mention of monitors was that there is no evidence that they do any good in saving a baby, but plenty of anecdotal evidence that they disturb parents sleep and as a result, their mental health.

I'm as worried as the next first time parent, but I think as long as you follow the advice about not letting them get too warm, not smoking etc then you've done the best that you can. And I know everyone says 'oh, but they always change the advice, you used to be told to put them on their tummies' but I think this is one situation where the facts speak for themselves. Cot death was always quite rare, but its dropped by something like 75% since this advice was introduced, so it seems like the advice is effective.

The bottom line is that baby monitors were invented by manufacturers to play on parents fears. Even if you're normally a deep sleeper, I could nearly guarantee that your instincts would wake you up anyway if something was wrong....